Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Pre-selection scientifically proven

SmoothTalker

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I find it interesting that a lot of the concepts we are aware of in regards to women have probably been known by those that are good with women for generations, but are not necessarily widely known by the average person.

Even though experience and observation have confirmed it for me already, here's an interesting study strongly supporting what we know about social proof and pre-selection.

http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn17619
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SmoothTalker said:
I find it interesting that a lot of the concepts we are aware of in regards to women have probably been known by those that are good with women for generations, but are not necessarily widely known by the average person.

Even though experience and observation have confirmed it for me already, here's an interesting study strongly supporting what we know about social proof and pre-selection.

http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn17619
I have a few experiences that attest to that.

One time I was aggressively propositioned by a chick I met at a party. She knew I had a gf at the time and her friend was digging me as well for the same reason.

At a club on my 21st birthday I danced all night with arguably the hottest chick there. I got approached and kissed by some other girl while hot girl was in the bathroom. I also had some other girl grab my face as to kiss me as I walked by with my main chick.

Today for example, I was talking to this girl at the campus and noticed another hot girl looking at me from a distance. She mentioned that she had looked over at me four times and asked if i knew her. A minute later said girl i was talking to asked for my number. Pre-selection at work again.


I don't understand why women are like this but obviously if you want them to chase you more than be around other women.
 

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FutureSpartan said:
I don't understand why women are like this but obviously if you want them to chase you more than be around other women.
It's true. You ever notice how when it rains, it pours? We all have those times where we are just on fire---skirts are chasing you left and right. I think it's the phenomenon of social proof/pre-selection.
 

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Colossus said:
It's true. You ever notice how when it rains, it pours? We all have those times where we are just on fire---skirts are chasing you left and right. I think it's the phenomenon of social proof/pre-selection.
I think this tends to be true more with younger women that are still in high school/college.

Most of their values, likes, dislikes, are defined by their clique of friends. So you have the head alpha chick falling head over heels for a guy and now all of a sudden said guy is getting major flirting from all her friends as well.

You ever wonder where chick drama starts? Usually its her bf cheating with her best friend.
 
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