Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Since every state has no-fault divorce, in the eyes of the law cheating is completely irrelevant.backbreaker said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
. According to wikipedia, Virginia's last adultery prosecution was in 2001 and ended in a $125 fine.
Not true. Many states still have at-fault divorce in addition to no-fault. For example, in Maryland if you want a no-fault divorce, you have to live separate or 1 year and jump through some hoops. However, if one of the spouses cheated, was convicted of a felony, and a few other things, then you can get a divorce in a matter of weeks.Bible_Belt said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I don't disagree, but what you're talking about is simply being granted the divorce more quickly. It does not relate to the division of assets. The woman still gets half of everything if she cheats and just as much child support and alimony. That rule is good in every state. The law considers the idea of punishing a woman for adultery to be antiquated, archaic, and well, un-feminist. Shame on anyone who thinks that way, shame shame! :nono:Nutz said: