"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ppl always say that im over confident?

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back to grade 6 teachers and friends all say that i am over confident even until now, the girls ive talked to always said that i am over confident and somtimes ****y, what should i do? after reading the dj bible, i learned that confident and ****iness are great things, but ppl are actually stating this fact, it feels awkward hearing it

should i back off a bit and act a bit less confident?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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antidonjuan said:
back to grade 6 teachers and friends all say that i am over confident even until now, the girls ive talked to always said that i am over confident and somtimes ****y, what should i do? after reading the dj bible, i learned that confident and ****iness are great things, but ppl are actually stating this fact, it feels awkward hearing it

should i back off a bit and act a bit less confident?
take as a compliment because it is
 

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yea, i think i am haha but its just the way i am.. i tried to back off sometimes but i show overconfidence and some arrogance without concience, ehh this is annoying
 

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It all depends on the tone they said it to you in. If they said it in a way like "Hey you're pretty overconfident," it MIGHT mean a good thing. Being overconfidence is better than having a lack of self esteem. But if they said it like "omg I swear you're so overconfident," then that's bad. Just be more open minded.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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There's a line between CONFIDENCE and ARROGANCE. I've learned the hard way that RESPECT is that line.

A lot of people, when starting out with C+F, overcompensate for confidence with arrogance. They disregard everyone else's thoughts and opinions because it is easy to assume they are insignificant compared to whatever your own thoughts are. This creates a sort of enmity that pushes you into the "a-hole" zone. It's almost too easy to become self-absorbed and jaded, but you always have to keep others' emotions in the back of your mind.

Over time, you'll come to find a balance between confidence and disregard. You can still be confident while practicing mutual respect. Have serious conversations with people and take respect their opinions. You can be confident and sympathetic at the same time. Be aware of how other people feel around you and have them keep a positive attitude of you. Remember that a good DJ is confident, but behind that confidence is an empathetic individual that can understand and connect with people on an emotional level.
 

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If you were playful and funny you wouldn't come off as such an ass.
 
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