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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ppl always say that im over confident?

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back to grade 6 teachers and friends all say that i am over confident even until now, the girls ive talked to always said that i am over confident and somtimes ****y, what should i do? after reading the dj bible, i learned that confident and ****iness are great things, but ppl are actually stating this fact, it feels awkward hearing it

should i back off a bit and act a bit less confident?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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antidonjuan said:
back to grade 6 teachers and friends all say that i am over confident even until now, the girls ive talked to always said that i am over confident and somtimes ****y, what should i do? after reading the dj bible, i learned that confident and ****iness are great things, but ppl are actually stating this fact, it feels awkward hearing it

should i back off a bit and act a bit less confident?
take as a compliment because it is
 

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yea, i think i am haha but its just the way i am.. i tried to back off sometimes but i show overconfidence and some arrogance without concience, ehh this is annoying
 

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It all depends on the tone they said it to you in. If they said it in a way like "Hey you're pretty overconfident," it MIGHT mean a good thing. Being overconfidence is better than having a lack of self esteem. But if they said it like "omg I swear you're so overconfident," then that's bad. Just be more open minded.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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There's a line between CONFIDENCE and ARROGANCE. I've learned the hard way that RESPECT is that line.

A lot of people, when starting out with C+F, overcompensate for confidence with arrogance. They disregard everyone else's thoughts and opinions because it is easy to assume they are insignificant compared to whatever your own thoughts are. This creates a sort of enmity that pushes you into the "a-hole" zone. It's almost too easy to become self-absorbed and jaded, but you always have to keep others' emotions in the back of your mind.

Over time, you'll come to find a balance between confidence and disregard. You can still be confident while practicing mutual respect. Have serious conversations with people and take respect their opinions. You can be confident and sympathetic at the same time. Be aware of how other people feel around you and have them keep a positive attitude of you. Remember that a good DJ is confident, but behind that confidence is an empathetic individual that can understand and connect with people on an emotional level.
 

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If you were playful and funny you wouldn't come off as such an ass.
 
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