"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Posture

orthanc

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Hello all, I have another question for you.

I naturally stand with a very closed posture, often crossing my arms and slouching. I never intend to convey that I'm brooding, withdrawing, etc., it just happens to be the way I stand. I try and remain conscious of this, and try to not stand like this when I am out "in the field", but I often find that as soon as I stop thinking about it, I go back to crossing my arms. Any suggestions as to how to counteract this instinct?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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wolf116

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hit the weights. work on your back to pull your sholders back. or wide grip chinups
 

jamescr73

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yeah lift weights, and when you stand with your arms crossed, bring them up high, by your pecks. Stand tall, and use your arms to define your pecks. This will make you look tough, yet your body language wont portray that you are closed off, insecure, unconfident or whatever.
 

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I used to have that problem in high school. If you just keep consciously practicing better posture, it will eventually become a habit. Now I rarely slouch at all.

I haven't tried it, but I also hear that the Alexander Technique is good for improving posture.
 

Sean O

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Well-developed abs are also important for good posture. I don't mean being ripped, I just meaing having strong, built abs.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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banGbro

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Try developing arms and shoulders, chest and back, gym is good but could be done at home. Once you start lifting 40 lbs dumb bells in each hand you start getting pump, when you pump you want to keep your hands apart.

But the mare fact that you forget to control your posture, tells that you forgetting to control yourself, so that could also be a problem.
 

Jariel

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As others have said, lift weights. Nothing improved my posture more.

When your muscles are flaccid, your posture will naturally sink. You don't necessarily have to be a bodybuilder if you don't want to, but just keep those muscles active.
 
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