"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Post your field experimentation ideas here, and I'll do them.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Solomon
Master Don Juan
I hvent read it all yet
But I will!!!
Solomon
Master Don Juan
MisterMcGee
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Bond made her laugh, then-
Bond: What about a drink at my place?
HB: Your place? Is it close?
Bond: Very.
8 second starefest.
HB: One drink
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Reading through this thread brings back some awesome memories of my undergraduate college career. This entire thread was a blast to do. From the slick ideas to the straight up outrageous ones, I can honestly say last school year (I've been away from the forums for about a year) was the most enjoyable one out of my college years.
Do any of you think that, a year later in retrospect, I regret any of the suggestions that I attempted which resulted in rejection? Of course not! In the same way, there is no one rejection that will matter to you in the grand scheme of things. The rejections that I received while experimenting with your ideas were some of the most hilarious ones I've ever gotten. Keep things in perspective at all times, and you'll have fun.
An update since I last posted: After I faded away from the forums I continued to approach chicks on campus and kind of "experiment" on my own. I wish I had been frequenting the forums at the time because you know that I would have given you day-to-day updates on each approach I tried and the results. I have my go-to approaches of course, and some of the ideas that I've tried in this thread I still use to this day (for example, my 5th experiment that L777 suggested). I am now attending graduate school at the very same campus and although I am much more vulnerable to time constraints, I'm thinking about starting this baby up again. How would you guys like a part 2?
EDIT: I want to give a shoutout to Randallpink83 for his tic-tac-toe opener idea that I used early on in this thread and I loved it. It's been one of my main weapons ever since.
Solomon
Master Don Juan
Yeah, last time around a lot of DJs wanted to get in on this so maybe this time there could be several of us trying these different approaches out. I'm curious to see what awesome ideas everyone will come up with.IsiMan84 said:
I moved to the Dallas area from Iowa. The city I lived by was maybe a little over 100,000 metro, and DFW metro is about twice the population of our entire state. My town was the type of place where everyone knew everyone, the same people went to the same places, and any failed pickup had long-term effects. I didn't realize I hadn't been on here since I moved, I'll update that soon.Solomon said:
One of my friends found a PUA meetup group in the Dallas area and they schedule a few get-togethers every now and then to talk about the same type of stuff we do on here. From what he tells me some of those guys need work too. But apparently they are planning to sarge at one of the Dallas malls next Sunday, so I might have to accompany him and see what these guys are all about. Could be a good chance to use some of those experimental approaches too. Have you proposed any new ideas, or are you looking to use the same format you did in this one?Incog said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
-It's my birthday! Can I have a birthday kiss? (Is it really your birthday?) No, but how about a kiss anyway?
-Do I know you? (delivered with ****ed brow- yes it's cheesy, that's the point)
-Are you single?
-Wow. (After looking at her up and down)
Off topic but what kind of setting are u in now. And will u have the opportunity to do it in your setting?
I'm in my last year of college right now and im considering trying some of these but the bad thing is. My school is 60-40 male to female. and the pop is about 20,000. I'm good looking and 5'11. i mainly go after asian girls, but they're so scarce at my school. i've gotten with a few though. I'm not sure how this would work on asian girls since our cultures are very conservative but who knows. I've had no problem talking to girls of any race maybe except some latina girls they're the most stuck up. i've had a gf of almost every race, u think it'd be a problem for an attractive asian male to use the shock and awe approach?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Vanilla
Senior Don Juan
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6kG6OOH5WYA
Sorry to leave you all hanging for 2 years! I decided to swing by the site and see what everyone was up to. First off, I must say I have slowed down considerably from the guy that originally posted this thread, who was willing to try just about any approach idea for the hell of it. I swam through my fair share of women in college, and as fun as it was while it lasted, I know I couldn't have done that forever. I'm now devoting a heavy amount of time to my new career, which explains my absence from the forums. Ironically, meeting women has never been easier. I put very little effort into it. The passion I have for my career is extremely attractive to women..not to mention when I tell a girl the career itself (I'm a police officer), I can feel them getting hot for me..haha.
Boy, this thread was fun to do. I am honored to have inspired a few of you out there to step out and try new things when it comes to approaching women. Reading this thread in retrospect, years later, I had forgotten about every instance of rejection I posted about here, while I had accurately remembered several of the hook-ups resulting from approaches in this thread. What does that tell you?
I don't know how often I'll stop in to check up on you guys (I hope it's not another 2 years), but let me leave you with this..
Never, ever be afraid to approach a woman.
hexx
Don Juan
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.