Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
The minute i saw this thread i said: "Rollo's going to be in here talking about 'cows' " =)Rollo Tomassi said:If these cows are your target demographic why learn Game at all? All you'd need is a deep-frier and a dozen Krispy Kremes to get 'em to come home with you.
Not herebukowski_merit said:2) (this is especially true if she doesn't have a 8+ face) They ASSUME they are easier to get. There's a certain belief among A LOT of people that really skinny, model type girls are stuck-up/unapproachable. I bet anyone $100 that if you send a typical model looking woman into a crowded mall, and a THICK decent looking woman into the same mall - the THICK girl will get hit on MUCH more than the model looking girl.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
This is a bullshit shaming technique. Refer to my first example. Most petite girls I see who put emphasis on having a pretty (FAKE) face are usually lacking in the body department and in the case of most red blooded men, a girls face is like any other face. All she needs are the features to be intact, proportionate, nice teeth, nice hair and decent skin, and its enough for her to be attractive.2) (this is especially true if she doesn't have a 8+ face) They ASSUME they are easier to get. There's a certain belief among A LOT of people that really skinny, model type girls are stuck-up/unapproachable. I bet anyone $100 that if you send a typical model looking woman into a crowded mall, and a THICK decent looking woman into the same mall - the THICK girl will get hit on MUCH more than the model looking girl.
except he was a lot more respectful about it.I have noticed that people seem to go for women more based on their own structure. I don't mean fat, more like ectomorph vs mesomorph. I come from a skinny delineation but have always been more into the skinny girls. my friend is more of the mesomorph ( looking at his sister she is too), and goes for the bigger ones. Yet other friend is in the ectomorph category as well (as is his sister), and his tastes are more congruent to mine.
I hope that one dude wasn't me because I do hate it when I'm in conflict with Drum&Bass. I certainly don't like my skull being crushed to pieces.Drum&Bass said:i said it before in another threat (one dude got his feelings hurt) and i'll say it again in this thread.
scrawny weak men are attracted to scrawny-ER weak-ER women.
I'm not sure where you're disagreeing with what i said because i don't disagree with you. I said thicker women get hit on more!Drum&Bass said:bukowski_merit
I think that theory is flawed. If 2 girls with the same modelesque type faces (twins) were to go into a club and the only difference between them were their bodies one girl having curvier features and the other being thin/petite, the woman with the curves will get hit on more.
im not sure what you're talking about again. how is it a shaming technique? once again, im agreeing with you and saying that thicker women get hit on more.Drum&Bass said:This is a bullshit shaming technique. Refer to my first example. Most petite girls I see who put emphasis on having a pretty face are usually lacking in the body and in the case of most red blooded men, a girls face is like any other face. If the features are intact and in proportion with nice teeth and decent skin, she's attractive.
I don't disagree... but then...Drum&Bass said:I think guys who criticize other guys choice in women are like chicks...and for some reason seem to think that their opinion is absolute...when in reality it isnt.
this kind of conflicts with what you just said (and i AM NOT one of those men who likes toothpick women!) you say we shouldn't criticize other guys choices in women (which i agree with) and then you go and blatantly insult guys for liking a certain type of woman.Drum&Bass said:scrawny weak men are attracted to scrawny-ER weak-ER women.
and I thought you were hinting that I was setting my sights low because of a lack of esteem or confidence.I'm basically saying the same thing you said above!
Except im even saying that if the skinny women is much better looking in the face... I think the THICK girl will still get hit on more!
Unless what you're disagreeing with is me saying part of the reason is that guys see them as more approachable.
Just a bit of emotion I added to my post, your good Jules nothin personalI hope that one dude wasn't me because I do hate it when I'm in conflict with Drum&Bass. I certainly don't like my skull being crushed to pieces.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
It's not this at all. It is a lack of an objective definition of "curvy". See, some land whales like to make themselves feel better by replacing "fat disgusting manatee" with "hurrrrrr i'm curvy". Just go to any dating site and look up some fatties and note how many have answered "curvy" for bodytype. It is not a lack of taste in the male community, but an utter distortion of reality from the female side. Curves, as has been noted, have everything to do with hip/chest ratio. Having a giant gut or bulging love handles destroys this ratio and makes a curvy girl into a fat slob.mrRuckus said:Now I totally understand why fat chicks think they have a chance with me. They are used to the attentions of guys like in here.
Not meant as an insult. I was just perplexed. I didn't know they were so popular. Explains why they have an attitude too.
We are talking about curvy girls and you don't know what curvy girls are brother.Rollo Tomassi said:Fat is fat, but contributing:
http://www.dlisted.com/node/37504
http://www.crabbygolightly.com/images/ivana_trump.jpg
Anyone know who the woman in the pic is?SrDedosRapidos said:I submit the following page as evidence;
http://www.facebook.com/search/?pos...arch&sid=-rUtuEEh796nCZBqHZyEEg.1122649924..1
Kim Kardashian.f283000 said:Anyone know who the woman in the pic is?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.