Ninja Dude
Senior Don Juan
BUMP!
Because this thread really helped me immensely and every DJ should read it!
Because this thread really helped me immensely and every DJ should read it!
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yup yup here we go again the key word spontanious, fellas be sure to take this word with you next time you club.Originally posted by Oxide
be spontanious and it will flow[/B]
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've gotta be fvcking kidding me!Originally posted by DominicanDJ
"Hey could dance with me the next song or THIS song?"
if she says, no.....I say..
"Ok I won't bother you again, but dance with me this time, don't embarass me in front of everyone" (the dance with you most of the time) Oh yeah say "please".
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Originally posted by Oxide
this was a pm to you kinetic, clean your box.
Oh noYou are talking about breathing.. You are using warm air from your mouth, on one spot for 2-3 secs, moving it slowly towards different spots... the only place i can see this working good is neck, mix it with some kissing in the same place and change cold/warm air to make it more sensitive (i do this on nipples as well).
Depends on who I'm out with really, sometimes the first thing we'll do is sit down and grab beers or we'll hit straight for the floor. It also depends on who I'm dancing with if I'm dancing with mates of mine or female friends. I usually just find the least crowded spot on the dancefloor and put on a major danceshow and usually that gets girls to "accidently come into my area", most times I prefer also to go on the floor WITH a girl and not find on the floor because it's less intrusive, depends on my mood.Alight, some more... When i enter the club, i like to do what i call "Spot check", meaning i would walk around the club slowly, studying every girl that might be of interest, but not giving any special attention to each one. I then move on to the dance floor, and just get in the mood - takes about 30mins to an hour, depending on songs.. anything similar with you?
It always depends on the girl and situation. Sometimes nothing is said and we just head out and start walking (towards a taxi or her place), sometimes I venuechange to an isolated area or something or even friends (IF there are any couples there or any sexual stuff going on like makeouts) and prep her more there or I just say lets go.What do you do when you are ready to get out of there? Telling her to come to your place..straight up? Are you using a cab or driving? What is your opinion on alcohol in clubs?
In clubs everyone drinks ye, it's not GOOD to get totally drunk like I do but there is nothing wrong with taking a few beers....Originally posted by Oxide
Nice one about the ears and the mouth. About alcohol - it isnt about forgetting the material.. becuase i dont have any detaild instructions, like you mentioned, but rather the misconception of the girl who thinks "he is drunk, he doesnt even care about me, he just wants to fukk." I've had this happen a couple of times at parties however, not clubs. Since people in the clubs drink, im guessing this would not be a problem.. correct?
do YOU drive, or who is less drunk?
Originally posted by SeldomSeen
6) dont wear out your welcome. If you meet a nice girl in the club and the two of you are diggin on each other don't hang around her all night; this will kill the moment and from my own personal experience can kill the deal. Back in the day I didnt understand that and would meet a girl and walk around with her the whole time in the club only to have her say "it was nice to meet you" and walk away with her friends without asking me a thing about seeing each other, going out etc and when I'd ask it was like "oh well...I'm really busy" So meet her, talk and after 20 min or so venture off somewhere else.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.