Post-mortem Feedback is appreciated

[davidcarr]

LOL, dude you should ask her out 100x! Ask her out every day for the rest of your life, that should work.

 

[Anchor man]

It reminds me of a friend of a friend. He would visit the same restaurant over and over again almost every single night ordering take out and keep asking her out. She never said yes. This went on for many months.

A waitress told me one of her customers has been going to her bar every night ordering drinks from her 3 years in a row, occasionally asking her out. She never went out with him.

I'm just trying to save him time.

don't worry I have a lot of time. Be man of your word, and continue laughing on the thread . You said it is a lost case. Point taken

 

[Anchor man]

LOL, dude you should ask her out 100x! Ask her out every day for the rest of your life, that should work.

This is what I am planning to

 

[marmel75]

agreed with this part , but you have to remember something maybe my game wasn't tight

Ok then tighten up your game and try with a new woman. Too late with this one.

 

[Anchor man]

Ok then tighten up your game and try with a new woman. Too late with this one.

Thanks , buddy but actually I wasn't trying to get her back. If you read my post, you'll see my question is this part


I took this as no and never confirmed the date. Guess what! On the morning of "the supposed date" day, she put herself in my orbit and started conversation with me with her eyes wondering about the date, but she never explicitly mentioned it. For weeks, she would put herself in my orbit and gave me puppy eyes multiple times . She even followed me one time and put herself in position where I can talk to her.I never brought up the date again for two reasons :
1- I was waiting on her to mention it.
2- I thought she might have missed my attention and she couldn't believe that I have not confirmed the date with her and she was trying to get my attention back. (maybe I was insecure)
At one point, she gave up which made sense .

Do you think I went too extreme ? Should I have just brought it up again?
Part of me is thinking she was afraid of rejection if she brought the date up since I have never confirmed it.
Other part of me is thinking "You ***** had a week to confirm , you can't just give me puppy eyes and expecting me to bring the date up again "

 

[davidcarr]

Thanks , buddy but actually I wasn't trying to get her back. If you read my post, you'll see my question is this part


I took this as no and never confirmed the date. Guess what! On the morning of "the supposed date" day, she put herself in my orbit and started conversation with me with her eyes wondering about the date, but she never explicitly mentioned it. For weeks, she would put herself in my orbit and gave me puppy eyes multiple times . She even followed me one time and put herself in position where I can talk to her.I never brought up the date again for two reasons :
1- I was waiting on her to mention it.
2- I thought she might have missed my attention and she couldn't believe that I have not confirmed the date with her and she was trying to get my attention back. (maybe I was insecure)
At one point, she gave up which made sense .

Do you think I went too extreme ? Should I have just brought it up again?
Part of me is thinking she was afraid of rejection if she brought the date up since I have never confirmed it.
Other part of me is thinking "You ***** had a week to confirm , you can't just give me puppy eyes and expecting me to bring the date up again "

You've posted exactly the same thing 20x in an hour.

The answer is no, there's nothing you could have said or done to make her go out with you. Yes, she led you on and made you look and feel foolish. There's no point in rehashing the past, it doesn't change anything. It just makes you look like a weird, obsessed stalker.

 

[Anchor man]

You've posted exactly the same thing 20x in an hour.

The answer is no, there's nothing you could have said or done to make her go out with you. Yes, she led you on and made you look and feel foolish. There's no point in rehashing the past, it doesn't change anything. It just makes you look like a weird, obsessed stalker.

Be a man of your word and stay away. Even if your advice is good, your attitude is not

 

[Ranger]

After reading all through this, I think she does want you but when you asked her out...from her viewpoint...you were too easy.
Then she would back off when you ask.
I think this could be a lesson in what constitutes “pursuit”, at least from her viewpoint.
No confirmation of date? Boom. chase.

This actually sounds like fun. The cat and mouse game. I could do with more of that.

 

[Anchor man]

After reading all through this, I think she does want you but when you asked her out...from her viewpoint...you were too easy.
Then she would back off when you ask.
I think this could be a lesson in what constitutes “pursuit”, at least from her viewpoint.
No confirmation of date? Boom. chase.

This actually sounds like fun. The cat and mouse game. I could do with more of that.

Thanks, Ranger .

 

[marmel75]

Thanks , buddy but actually I wasn't trying to get her back. If you read my post, you'll see my question is this part


I took this as no and never confirmed the date. Guess what! On the morning of "the supposed date" day, she put herself in my orbit and started conversation with me with her eyes wondering about the date, but she never explicitly mentioned it. For weeks, she would put herself in my orbit and gave me puppy eyes multiple times . She even followed me one time and put herself in position where I can talk to her.I never brought up the date again for two reasons :
1- I was waiting on her to mention it.
2- I thought she might have missed my attention and she couldn't believe that I have not confirmed the date with her and she was trying to get my attention back. (maybe I was insecure)
At one point, she gave up which made sense .

Do you think I went too extreme ? Should I have just brought it up again?
Part of me is thinking she was afraid of rejection if she brought the date up since I have never confirmed it.
Other part of me is thinking "You ***** had a week to confirm , you can't just give me puppy eyes and expecting me to bring the date up again "

She is expecting you to continue to act desperate just as you have been.

 

[AJ84]

If you spent any time in the forum , you should know .Women cheat and branch swing . Simple
but again , you never picked up women , how would you understand

You joined today. I have over 12 months on the forum.
No, I don’t know what’s it like to pick up a woman. But, I do know what it’s like to be into a guy who is showing interest vs not really being into him and entertaining and encouraging his interest because I’m not getting enough attention from other guys or from my boyfriend or I just like the ego boost.
Of course there is the possibility that she’s branch swinging too. But, until you actually have a date of some kind with her, it’s hard to determine what her intentions are.
Sorry if the feedback you are getting is not what you want to hear, take what you think works and disregard the rest but be realistic and not idealistic about what’s going on, that’s all.

 

[Spaz]

Create jealousy, and her competitive nature would take over.

Then it's u driving the situation.

 

[Anchor man]

You joined today. I have over 12 months on the forum.
No, I don’t know what’s it like to pick up a woman. But, I do know what it’s like to be into a guy who is showing interest vs not really being into him and entertaining and encouraging his interest because I’m not getting enough attention from other guys or from my boyfriend or I just like the ego boost.
Of course there is the possibility that she’s branch swinging too. But, until you actually have a date of some kind with her, it’s hard to determine what her intentions are.
Sorry if the feedback you are getting is not what you want to hear, take what you think works and disregard the rest but be realistic and not idealistic about what’s going on, that’s all.

Okay, could you tell me you IOI's ? to teach me

 

[Ranger]

Create jealousy, and her competitive nature would take over.

Then it's u driving the situation.

My first instinct was this as well. The beauty of spinning plates or being able to spin plates if you chose to.

 

[AJ84]

If a woman just likes the attention for the ego boost, or just likes the attention because she’s bored, creating mystery or jealous game isn’t going to magically make her truly interested. I can see that working 100 % on women who are interested though and they will ask a guy out usually at that point.

 

[Anchor man]

My first instinct was this as well. The beauty of spinning plates or being able to spin plates if you chose to.

Agree

 

[AJ84]

Okay, could you tell me you IOI's ? to teach me

Try asking her out again and if you get the same run around as before, there’s your answer.

 

[Anchor man]

If a woman just likes the attention for the ego boost, or just likes the attention because she’s bored, creating mystery or jealous game isn’t going to magically make her truly interested. I can see that working 100 % on women who are interested though and they will ask a guy out usually at that point.

Hu could you tell us how to tell if a woman is attention ***** or showing real interest ?

 

[Spaz]

If a woman just likes the attention for the ego boost, or just likes the attention because she’s bored, creating mystery or jealous game isn’t going to magically make her truly interested. I can see that working 100 % on women who are interested though and they will ask a guy out usually at that point.

It will once another women comes into the picture. A women can't help it by then.

But it's not sustainable. Any techniques used within a women's frame will fail in the end.

 

[Anchor man]

Try asking her out again and if you get the same run around as before, there’s your answer.

Haven't you read the post ! she chased after I have not confirmed the date Then she gave up. So I can't do it anymore. Have you even considered that maybe she wanted to cheat but felt guilty . Have you ever considered the possibility of me blowing it off ? Have you ever considered she wanted to branch swing and I am not good enough ?

The issue is all the game forum has the same advice without even reading and even considering any other factor
1- you are her orbit
2-dont double text
3- next her
4- don't waste your time . This advice makes me feel this guy time is so important that He doesn't have 2 sec to text.