"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Possible BPD alert.

sylvester the cat

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Only had two dates with this 25 year old and already I got a bad feeling about her.

Red flags so far:

1) Mother left her to be raised by grandparents.
2) Father used to be or still is a heavy gambler.
3) Troubled relationship with sisters.
4) Half joking references to me moving in with her (on date two).
5) Large tattoo across upper back.
6) Numerous questioning whether I'm married or have children.
7) Before date gives me an alternative phone to contact her on due to other one's battery being dead but during date I notice that she is using the supposed dead phone.
8) Intense declarations of feelings and how she wants to spend more time with me one day. Radio silence on other days.
9) Addictively fun to be around.

The only red flag missing is her giving it up already. This she hasn't done. However, common sense tells me to eject immediately.

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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She's definitely wife material. You should propose this weekend
 

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skinnyguy said:
She's definitely wife material. You should propose this weekend
the weekend is four days away. that's a lifetime in BPD world. you don't think i should do it sooner?
 

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She does touch a lot of bases, especially the last one. I always felt like I was with a very high-priced escort.

Other indications could be:
substance abuse issues of her own
having clingy orbiter exes that she denies stringing along but really is
being kind of a screw-up career-wise

Typically they will have multiple kids with multiple men, who inevitably end up raising the kid themselves. Maybe she just hasn't gotten started yet.
 
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