"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Possible BPD alert.

sylvester the cat

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Only had two dates with this 25 year old and already I got a bad feeling about her.

Red flags so far:

1) Mother left her to be raised by grandparents.
2) Father used to be or still is a heavy gambler.
3) Troubled relationship with sisters.
4) Half joking references to me moving in with her (on date two).
5) Large tattoo across upper back.
6) Numerous questioning whether I'm married or have children.
7) Before date gives me an alternative phone to contact her on due to other one's battery being dead but during date I notice that she is using the supposed dead phone.
8) Intense declarations of feelings and how she wants to spend more time with me one day. Radio silence on other days.
9) Addictively fun to be around.

The only red flag missing is her giving it up already. This she hasn't done. However, common sense tells me to eject immediately.

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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She's definitely wife material. You should propose this weekend
 

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skinnyguy said:
She's definitely wife material. You should propose this weekend
the weekend is four days away. that's a lifetime in BPD world. you don't think i should do it sooner?
 

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She does touch a lot of bases, especially the last one. I always felt like I was with a very high-priced escort.

Other indications could be:
substance abuse issues of her own
having clingy orbiter exes that she denies stringing along but really is
being kind of a screw-up career-wise

Typically they will have multiple kids with multiple men, who inevitably end up raising the kid themselves. Maybe she just hasn't gotten started yet.
 
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