"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Possible BPD alert.

sylvester the cat

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Only had two dates with this 25 year old and already I got a bad feeling about her.

Red flags so far:

1) Mother left her to be raised by grandparents.
2) Father used to be or still is a heavy gambler.
3) Troubled relationship with sisters.
4) Half joking references to me moving in with her (on date two).
5) Large tattoo across upper back.
6) Numerous questioning whether I'm married or have children.
7) Before date gives me an alternative phone to contact her on due to other one's battery being dead but during date I notice that she is using the supposed dead phone.
8) Intense declarations of feelings and how she wants to spend more time with me one day. Radio silence on other days.
9) Addictively fun to be around.

The only red flag missing is her giving it up already. This she hasn't done. However, common sense tells me to eject immediately.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She's definitely wife material. You should propose this weekend
 

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skinnyguy said:
She's definitely wife material. You should propose this weekend
the weekend is four days away. that's a lifetime in BPD world. you don't think i should do it sooner?
 

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She does touch a lot of bases, especially the last one. I always felt like I was with a very high-priced escort.

Other indications could be:
substance abuse issues of her own
having clingy orbiter exes that she denies stringing along but really is
being kind of a screw-up career-wise

Typically they will have multiple kids with multiple men, who inevitably end up raising the kid themselves. Maybe she just hasn't gotten started yet.
 
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