the_azn_fu
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Hey, i was wondering if it's possible to neg too much. And if it is, how do you pull yourself out without looking like an AFC?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Possbile to Neg too much?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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What kind of question is that? Of course. You can do anything in excess. You have to practice moderation.the_azn_fu said:
Francisco d'Anconia
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Search the forum. Learn what a Neg truly is and when you are supposed to use it. Don't use negs as a way to compensate for having the personality of an @sshole. Harsh but true (nothing personal).
the_azn_fu
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okay, so after you neg too much, how do you pull yourself out without being AFC?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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the_azn_fu said:
The answer is to stop using the neg so much in the first place. Pretty straight up, no?
Seems a lot of the newer guys here are using all of these basic little convo techniques as if everything else circles around it. You're suppose to use this stuff as an enhancer.
It is very much like adding spices to a meal. If you add too much of one, it diminishes the effect all of the others, yet you also retain the flexiablity to be able to add more or less of each "flavor" depending on a persons indivdual taste.
I can cook a kick ass sauce, but far too much garlic will ruin it. On the other hand, if the person eating it happens to love garlic, I can add a little more than usual to suit that taste, or vice versa, much less for the non-garlic lovers, etc. etc. That's how you're suppose to use this stuff in rapport.
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