the_azn_fu
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Hey, i was wondering if it's possible to neg too much. And if it is, how do you pull yourself out without looking like an AFC?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Possbile to Neg too much?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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What kind of question is that? Of course. You can do anything in excess. You have to practice moderation.the_azn_fu said:
Francisco d'Anconia
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Search the forum. Learn what a Neg truly is and when you are supposed to use it. Don't use negs as a way to compensate for having the personality of an @sshole. Harsh but true (nothing personal).
the_azn_fu
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okay, so after you neg too much, how do you pull yourself out without being AFC?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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the_azn_fu said:
The answer is to stop using the neg so much in the first place. Pretty straight up, no?
Seems a lot of the newer guys here are using all of these basic little convo techniques as if everything else circles around it. You're suppose to use this stuff as an enhancer.
It is very much like adding spices to a meal. If you add too much of one, it diminishes the effect all of the others, yet you also retain the flexiablity to be able to add more or less of each "flavor" depending on a persons indivdual taste.
I can cook a kick ass sauce, but far too much garlic will ruin it. On the other hand, if the person eating it happens to love garlic, I can add a little more than usual to suit that taste, or vice versa, much less for the non-garlic lovers, etc. etc. That's how you're suppose to use this stuff in rapport.
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