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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

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Porn doesnt turn me on

Thread starter Adma
Start date Oct 13, 2008

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Adma

Don Juan

#1

I dont know why but i just dont feel anything for porn. I mean i can watch it and enjoy it but i dont neccesarily get excited over it.

I have to see the girl in person to feel "hard" is this normal?

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Fallen

Don Juan

#2

Absolutely!

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Groovy

Master Don Juan

#3

That's good!

Being a porn addict must suck bad. I bet it has nothing to do with real life. Then you can only get on to porn... It should be exactly the other way around.

I personally can't understand how some guys can jack off to their onietisis or girls they met in real life. That never ocurred to me.

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everywomanshero

Master Don Juan

#4

Watching porn isn't a good idea anyway. I've had several people tell me that they ended up sleeping with giant, amazon women because they got so horned out from watching porn they had to find someone right then. I saw a picture of one of these beasts, uggggh, man was it nasty as ****

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bigjohnson

Master Don Juan

#5

Porn is different to each person anyway. Best use for it in my experience is if you find something *she* is into it can often lead to some pretty wild adventures.

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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noirsake

Don Juan

#6

everywomanshero said:
Watching porn isn't a good idea anyway. I've had several people tell me that they ended up sleeping with giant, amazon women because they got so horned out from watching porn they had to find someone right then. I saw a picture of one of these beasts, uggggh, man was it nasty as ****

Yeah this is VERY true. My friend that jacks to porn 4 times a day (no joke) would fvck anything he got his hands on. He's admitted to it too. How sad.

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nightcrawler

Senior Don Juan

#7

Adma said:
I dont know why but i just dont feel anything for porn. I mean i can watch it and enjoy it but i dont neccesarily get excited over it.

I have to see the girl in person to feel "hard" is this normal?

try gay porn and report back.

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Darth

Master Don Juan

#8

You are perfectly normal and healthy in fact.

I am the same way. I don't do porn, but the couple of times I have seen it my first instinct was to avert my eyes. It just doesn't arouse me at all.

A pretty chick with nice clothes that I see in person on turns me on way more than porn.

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DrD77

Senior Don Juan

#9

Good for you guys. I became addicted to porn and I'm in the process of quitting. I use to binge on for up to 4 hours at a time looking at porn. Then afterwards I felt DISGUSTED. It's not worth it, porn does no good for you. It was just a brief high that I wanted because I was depressed about not having a girlfriend. I still have no girls, but porn is not the answer. I found that the more I looked at porn, the further and further getting a girlfriend is.

Paintballguy

Master Don Juan

#10

Darth said:
A pretty chick with nice clothes that I see in person on turns me on way more than porn.

I agree. I think it is the whole tease thing. When you watch porn, everything is just out there right away. IE, the girl is butt ass naked getting rammed in under 10 seconds. Rather then seeing a hot girl in public thinking "damn i'd love to see her naked". Thats just my opinion anyways.

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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CapedCrusader08

Banned

#11

I am concerned porn is becoming a problem. I stay in and jack off,even when I told myself I won't. I spent so much time doing that, and I have no girls currently. This is killing me.

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FairShake

Master Don Juan

#12

Nothing wrong with it. In fact, it can be helpful for new things to try.

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Rex Man

Master Don Juan

#13

Porn is the game-killer. Instant gratification can screw with your mind. If I had a porn addiction, I would donate 5$ to charity everytime I 'relapsed'.

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DonJuan11

Master Don Juan

#14

Paintballguy said:
When you watch porn, everything is just out there right away. IE, the girl is butt ass naked getting rammed in under 10 seconds. Rather then seeing a hot girl in public thinking "damn i'd love to see her naked". Thats just my opinion anyways.

LOL. Watching Jessica Simpson having sex like the movie Basic Instinct would turn me on more than seeing a girl with clothes on going to work Monday morning at 8:30 am.

Porn doesn't hurt, and if you watch it all day and night, then yes, you may have a problem. Some girls I know have said the sex they have with a guy who doesn't watch porn has sucked beyond belief and the sex with the guys who watch porn has been pretty good. Just something to think about.

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toddlips

Banned

#15

CapedCrusader08 said:
I am concerned porn is becoming a problem. I stay in and jack off,even when I told myself I won't. I spent so much time doing that, and I have no girls currently. This is killing me.

Get a job man! I hear driving a cab is a great way of making a living. :rock:

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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brewbaron

Don Juan

#16

I don't think porn is necessarily a bad thing. like most things it takes some self-control. don't spend over x amount of minutes looking at porn, don't wack it more than x number of times a week. having said that I agree with the poster who said a beautiful woman in real life trounces porn in every way, there is no comparison.

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Junkyard

Don Juan

#17

Everything in moderation. Its tough sometimes, especially when your staying in on a weekend night and u get super horny lol

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Randallpink83

Master Don Juan

#18

muhuwahaha said:
try gay porn and report back.

hahaha - good stuff

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Forty0ztoFreedom

Senior Don Juan

#19

Count me in on the "porn is not worth it" bandwagon. Things like sexual exhaustion and retarded ejaculation are real, growing issues. And they seem to have been spiking since the internet got real big. Hmmmm . .

For me though, the biggest issue is the de-sensitizing it does. When a pair of boobs seems like old news to you, you have a problem. Personally I've cut way back, but caved in last Saturday. Oh well.

Rollo Tomassi

Master Don Juan

#20

Porn is for married men who's wives got fat and/or wont put out anymore.

Get busy ƒucking real women gentlemen. Sex is in your bedroom, not on the monitor.

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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