"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SHakuhachi

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I watch 2-3 porn movies everyday. Even if I do my homework I turn some porn video on just for fun.

Does anybody here have the same problem? Or does anybody know how to quit?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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CadillacCTS

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I used to have the same problem as you. I think you should treat serouisly because it is real addiction and it will affect your life. When I was trying to quit I found it to be really difficult, and I had many relapses, but I stuck with it and now I have it under control. Here is what I did....

I every day that Im clean, I write it the date down on a MS word file, and the days that I relapse I highlight it in red. I think u should get it of the "streak" mentality where you count the number of consective days. Instead do what I did and records days as clean or not clean. Its hard at first to let go completely, so start out slow. Stop watching for one day of the week, tell urself for this one day of the week im clean, and I can watch it as much as I want on the other days. After a couple of weeks make it two days, then three and so on. Keep at it, dont worry if u relapse, it will take time.
 

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Fo sho. When you get laid, porn gets boring.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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MAVER1CK

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I just use pron to get off.

I feel bad for the dudes who are addicted, thats some serious ****.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
A girlfriend is an effective cure. :D
Not always because some porn starlets look absolutely flawless (Sara Jean Underwood 2007 PMOY for example) and your gfs usually don't so you choose to jack off to porn instead of being physical with your gf.
 

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A little help

Something that always got me when I was trying to not look at porn was ads online that had a sexy lady in them. I was on myspace a lot then and it was the True ads. Adblock for Firefox is really cool in that you can block any kind of ad or picture you want. It doesn't work extremely well as a filter though because it's so easy to turn off. But it may help by not planting as many seeds.

Your mentality seems to be different than mine though. Do you feel really guilty after you watch it, I don't feel guilty after just watching a tv show, and it sounds like it's a similar thing to do, like listening to music.

What I'm getting at is I think that maybe, making a strong decision that you don't want to watch porn all the time will help tons.

Also, for a while I did written affirmations, it worked very well, until I got lazy, or complacent and stopped.

Example: I kabatura, will not look at porn ever again

I think I did it 14 times. There' a lot of different ideas around on how many times to do this and I'm not sure if it matters.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Potbelly

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That's insane...porn while you do homework? lmao...
 

lordson

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i only watch it when i fee like it and when i'm horny and know i'm not getting any sex for the next 3 days

i never watch it just for the hell of it, only watch it when you feel you need to
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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