"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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SHakuhachi

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I watch 2-3 porn movies everyday. Even if I do my homework I turn some porn video on just for fun.

Does anybody here have the same problem? Or does anybody know how to quit?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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CadillacCTS

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I used to have the same problem as you. I think you should treat serouisly because it is real addiction and it will affect your life. When I was trying to quit I found it to be really difficult, and I had many relapses, but I stuck with it and now I have it under control. Here is what I did....

I every day that Im clean, I write it the date down on a MS word file, and the days that I relapse I highlight it in red. I think u should get it of the "streak" mentality where you count the number of consective days. Instead do what I did and records days as clean or not clean. Its hard at first to let go completely, so start out slow. Stop watching for one day of the week, tell urself for this one day of the week im clean, and I can watch it as much as I want on the other days. After a couple of weeks make it two days, then three and so on. Keep at it, dont worry if u relapse, it will take time.
 

Skilla_Staz

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Fo sho. When you get laid, porn gets boring.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MAVER1CK

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I just use pron to get off.

I feel bad for the dudes who are addicted, thats some serious ****.
 

bud_2005

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Bible_Belt said:
A girlfriend is an effective cure. :D
Not always because some porn starlets look absolutely flawless (Sara Jean Underwood 2007 PMOY for example) and your gfs usually don't so you choose to jack off to porn instead of being physical with your gf.
 

kabatura

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A little help

Something that always got me when I was trying to not look at porn was ads online that had a sexy lady in them. I was on myspace a lot then and it was the True ads. Adblock for Firefox is really cool in that you can block any kind of ad or picture you want. It doesn't work extremely well as a filter though because it's so easy to turn off. But it may help by not planting as many seeds.

Your mentality seems to be different than mine though. Do you feel really guilty after you watch it, I don't feel guilty after just watching a tv show, and it sounds like it's a similar thing to do, like listening to music.

What I'm getting at is I think that maybe, making a strong decision that you don't want to watch porn all the time will help tons.

Also, for a while I did written affirmations, it worked very well, until I got lazy, or complacent and stopped.

Example: I kabatura, will not look at porn ever again

I think I did it 14 times. There' a lot of different ideas around on how many times to do this and I'm not sure if it matters.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Potbelly

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That's insane...porn while you do homework? lmao...
 

lordson

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i only watch it when i fee like it and when i'm horny and know i'm not getting any sex for the next 3 days

i never watch it just for the hell of it, only watch it when you feel you need to
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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