Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Poll: How many of you guys have dated a woman TALLER than you?

Have you dated a woman TALLER than yourself?

  • Yes I have

    Votes: 22 37.3%
  • No I have not

    Votes: 37 62.7%

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fertileTurtle

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I have cuz im short. Doesnt bother me a bit.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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wallycleaver

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i am 6'7" and i couldn't imagine dating a girl taller than me (yes, there are a few girls taller than 6'7"). being tall has its ups and downs. yeah, people respect you when you stand up (i am all legs), and females of all ages are always commenting on how "nice and tall" i am. kids ask for your autograph for no reason at all. adults ask you how many points you scored last night. i am a quite guy so it is a bit annoying to always be the center of attention.

negatives are plenty. i can't find jeans that look stylish or for that matter any clothes. that is why so many taller guys go around in tracksuits. i even have trouble taking a dump in some bathrooms. i visited belgrade last summer and that was cool because there were lots of tall guys like myself. the summer before i visited japan and felt like a rockstar. that was the oddest three weeks of my life. try riding public transportation in tokyo as a 6'7" man. i was a literal cripple in japan.
 

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Well I think almost ALL the chicks in my school are shorter than me(I'm either 5'9 or 6 flat I think), so I haven't really had experience with taller babes before. I think the only time I've seen a chick that's taller than me is either if a really tall girl wears high heels or if the girls just super freaking tall.
 

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wutangfinancial said:
lol, weren't you the one telling me height doesn't matter, it's your game, blah blah

Guess what, every singly women on earth has a "thing" for taller men, it's genetic, it's not just you. It's not an odd preference; rather, it's universal.

I've seen short guys date busted girls taller than themselves....

Again, your height has nothing to do with the height of the girl-it has to do with the attractiveness of said girl. All girls want tall guys. Thus, ugly girls and short guys finish last. Just go to any club, any high school dance, etc.
I wouldn't turn away a guy that was "short" just because of his height. It's just that SOME of them have huge chips on their shoulder because of their height...thus, they do not appeal to me (as I've said before, there's nothing I hate more in a man that the victim mentality). I've been attracted to shorter guys in the past... When I say I have a "thing" for tall men, I mean that they catch my eye sometimes (but height means nothing if he has bad teeth or an awkward personality...lacks confidence, etc).

I know several guys that are "short" and ooze charm...now if I were to meet guys with similar personalities, I'd possibly consider dating them if I were single.
 

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wutangfinancial said:
We have chips on our shoulder because our taller friends are out on dates while we angrily type out inane posts on so suave.
Every guy on this site who is still a virgin is below average height.

Imagine being fat, and not being able to ever change it. That's what it's like being a short guy.
I am not going to pretend to understand how you're feeling. The fact of the matter is, you cannot change your height - so why not just accept it and move on? How is it that some short guys can get past it and others can't? What do they have that you don't?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Purple-Haze said:
I am not going to pretend to understand how you're feeling. The fact of the matter is, you cannot change your height - so why not just accept it and move on? How is it that some short guys can get past it and others can't? What do they have that you don't?

Purple Haze seems to be a smart gal;) and I have a thing for smart girls..:p
Even though she won't tell me who she is!:moon:

I'm 5' 7" Now I'm going to say that is a "good" hieght for a man? or is that considered kinda short?.. I have always wondered, because many girls around here are taller than me.

I hate it when I see a girl and it's like "wooo" she is cute, then I go up next to her for a better look, and she's above me by about 2 or 3 inches... all of a sudden I feel like a little kid or something, especialy when her tower of a BF comes over...... It's like "hey mom and dad." errrr
 

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i would say that a "good" height for a grown man, 20+, is at least 5'10'. because most guys i know are at least that, anything else is considered shorter.

actually i havn't seen that many very short guys before, or maybe its just i dont notice them.

its tough, just like being ugly, but you are what you are and you can't change it so you'll have to do the best you can/ obvioulsy you're not oging to be banging the hottest girls all the time, but you stilln eed to try.
 

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schttrj said:
tell me something guys honestly and Purple Haze, you too, what is the average height of girls in US, UK or Europe? i would really like to know.
It varies. There are different types of White people. The Dutch are the tallest people in the world from what I've read. They're about 6ft 2 on average.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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SickAgain

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ElStud said:
(I'm either 5'9 or 6 flat I think)
You make yourself sound stupid at every opportunity. I think you fail with girls because your brain is underdeveloped. Too much Rock Band, not enough books.
 
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wutangfinancial said:
We have chips on our shoulder because our taller friends are out on dates while we angrily type out inane posts on so suave.
Every guy on this site who is still a virgin is below average height.

Imagine being fat, and not being able to ever change it. That's what it's like being a short guy.

wutang - I am just under 5'7" and I can still can laid. no virgin here. It may be a bit harder to do - but it is one attribute among many. Tom Cruise is shorter than Katie Holmes. I mean seriously - we need to do a survey - Its not like I never see guys my height or shorter without a girlfriend - I do all the time.
 
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it's crap like wutang's that probably temporarily killed my game. now I keep thinking "damn I'm short" when I never thought about it before. I know two guys - both shorter than me (like 5'5") who are not movie stars and aren't rich and I remember they used to get babes. I have no reason to lie about that. How did they do it? I'd like to find out. But them being midgets didn't stop them. One has a child now and still gets other girls.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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lordson said:
i would say that a "good" height for a grown man, 20+, is at least 5'10'. because most guys i know are at least that, anything else is considered shorter.

actually i havn't seen that many very short guys before, or maybe its just i dont notice them.

its tough, just like being ugly, but you are what you are and you can't change it so you'll have to do the best you can/ obvioulsy you're not oging to be banging the hottest girls all the time, but you stilln eed to try.
I like petite girls anyway... Natalie Portman comes to mind(she's shorter than me) I know for a fact, because I stood like 5 feet away from her once:D

Natalie... I love you:cool:
 

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slaog said:
I'm after getting a number of a girl who is 5ft 11 so see how that goes. She said she doesn't wear high heels for obvious reasons!
We were texting tonight and I mentioned her height a few times and she boasted that I must be delighted that she's so tall. Before in my AFC days I would have said something like "yes I do like tall women, it is nice" but today I said "I'd prefer 5'9 or 5'10 but you'll do!". lol
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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