fertileTurtle
Master Don Juan
I have cuz im short. Doesnt bother me a bit.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I wouldn't turn away a guy that was "short" just because of his height. It's just that SOME of them have huge chips on their shoulder because of their height...thus, they do not appeal to me (as I've said before, there's nothing I hate more in a man that the victim mentality). I've been attracted to shorter guys in the past... When I say I have a "thing" for tall men, I mean that they catch my eye sometimes (but height means nothing if he has bad teeth or an awkward personality...lacks confidence, etc).wutangfinancial said:lol, weren't you the one telling me height doesn't matter, it's your game, blah blah
Guess what, every singly women on earth has a "thing" for taller men, it's genetic, it's not just you. It's not an odd preference; rather, it's universal.
I've seen short guys date busted girls taller than themselves....
Again, your height has nothing to do with the height of the girl-it has to do with the attractiveness of said girl. All girls want tall guys. Thus, ugly girls and short guys finish last. Just go to any club, any high school dance, etc.
I am not going to pretend to understand how you're feeling. The fact of the matter is, you cannot change your height - so why not just accept it and move on? How is it that some short guys can get past it and others can't? What do they have that you don't?wutangfinancial said:We have chips on our shoulder because our taller friends are out on dates while we angrily type out inane posts on so suave.
Every guy on this site who is still a virgin is below average height.
Imagine being fat, and not being able to ever change it. That's what it's like being a short guy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Purple-Haze said:I am not going to pretend to understand how you're feeling. The fact of the matter is, you cannot change your height - so why not just accept it and move on? How is it that some short guys can get past it and others can't? What do they have that you don't?
It varies. There are different types of White people. The Dutch are the tallest people in the world from what I've read. They're about 6ft 2 on average.schttrj said:tell me something guys honestly and Purple Haze, you too, what is the average height of girls in US, UK or Europe? i would really like to know.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You make yourself sound stupid at every opportunity. I think you fail with girls because your brain is underdeveloped. Too much Rock Band, not enough books.ElStud said:(I'm either 5'9 or 6 flat I think)
Do you wear high heels? :crackup:ElStud said:(I'm either 5'9 or 6 flat I think)
wutangfinancial said:We have chips on our shoulder because our taller friends are out on dates while we angrily type out inane posts on so suave.
Every guy on this site who is still a virgin is below average height.
Imagine being fat, and not being able to ever change it. That's what it's like being a short guy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I like petite girls anyway... Natalie Portman comes to mind(she's shorter than me) I know for a fact, because I stood like 5 feet away from her oncelordson said:i would say that a "good" height for a grown man, 20+, is at least 5'10'. because most guys i know are at least that, anything else is considered shorter.
actually i havn't seen that many very short guys before, or maybe its just i dont notice them.
its tough, just like being ugly, but you are what you are and you can't change it so you'll have to do the best you can/ obvioulsy you're not oging to be banging the hottest girls all the time, but you stilln eed to try.
Thats very AFC Eric... she's just a girl!!EricInTheHouse said:I like petite girls anyway... Natalie Portman comes to mind(she's shorter than me) I know for a fact, because I stood like 5 feet away from her once![]()
Natalie... I love you![]()
slaog said:Thats very AFC Eric... she's just a girl!!![]()
She's everything I want in a GF, not just her looks either..... she is ......perfectslaog said:. she's just a girl!!![]()
We were texting tonight and I mentioned her height a few times and she boasted that I must be delighted that she's so tall. Before in my AFC days I would have said something like "yes I do like tall women, it is nice" but today I said "I'd prefer 5'9 or 5'10 but you'll do!". lolslaog said:I'm after getting a number of a girl who is 5ft 11 so see how that goes. She said she doesn't wear high heels for obvious reasons!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.