Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Poll: Help with looking at options to move out

What do you think is the best option?

  • Closer to work but further from fun

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Midway between work and fun

    Votes: 1 33.3%
  • Closer to fun but further from work

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • You can't afford to move out without a roommate to get lower rent

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • You can't afford to move out at all, keep saving

    Votes: 2 66.7%

  • Total voters
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Remember, rent raises usually every year 3% - 5% (or more).
Rent doesn't typically rise much at all if you renew your lease, in my experience it's usually at most $10-20 a year when you renew, and some people are still paying rents based on prices ten years ago.
Rent does typically rise. There are a lot of factors that relate to rent increases.

Few people rent the same place for 7-10 years.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Come to the Rio Grande Valley.

Everything is cheaper out here, including housing and Mortage and groceries.

Plus places like McAllen, Brownsville and South Padre Island, got a lively night life on the weekends.
 

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Rent does typically rise. There are a lot of factors that relate to rent increases.

Few people rent the same place for 7-10 years.
You'd be surprised. I have a few buildings with tenants in their who've lived there since the 80s. Every year I raise them due to the increase of property taxes and expenses.
 

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Rent doesn't typically rise much at all if you renew your lease, in my experience it's usually at most $10-20 a year when you renew, and some people are still paying rents based on prices ten years ago.
I raise 3.5% - 5% every year. My average rent is $2k a month. So, that's an increase, every year some where between $70.00 - $100.00 a month on renewal. Those fvckers in Stamford raised my taxes almost $300 a month last year. Rest assured I am challenging them in February.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I have a few buildings with tenants in their who've lived there since the 80s. Every year I raise them due to the increase of property taxes and expenses.
The whole point of renting is to have flexibility to move when needed.

Every year, the option exists to move without having to go through the ordeal of trying to sell a house.

Renting is better as a shorter term solution (less than 5 years in a specific location).
 

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From the U.S Census Bureau:

>>Rent prices in the United States have been increasing, but the rate of increase has varied by year and location:

>>As of August, rent growth had Rent prices vary by location, with some of the highest increases in Hartford, Cleveland, Louisville, Providence, and Cincinnati.

>>Rents increased 6.5% in Arizona, 8.2% in Florida, and 6.0% in Georgia (Arizona rent growth was not significantly different from growth in Florida or Georgia).

>>Factors that affect rent prices include inflation, housing supply, and regional demand. The Rental Housing Journal forecasts that rents will continue to rise in 2025 and 2026.
 

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The whole point of renting is to have flexibility to move when needed.

Every year, the option exists to move without having to go through the ordeal of trying to sell a house.

Renting is better as a shorter term solution (less than 5 years in a specific location).
As with everything in life, it depends. Rent is very expensive these days in New England and many of the major Mid-Atlantic cities. If one can spend $1400 a month on rent or $1400 a month on a mortgage, most times, the one with the mortgage will make out better in the long term. Plus, with rentals, all the expends are tax deductions which equals less money to Uncle Sam and the state.
 

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My man’s living in his own little world
Definitely happens with all rent-controlled unit and some states have harsher rent control restrictions in general that prevent rent from being raised too much. There are still people in NYC paying under $1000 for apartments.



Rent does typically rise. There are a lot of factors that relate to rent increases.

Few people rent the same place for 7-10 years.
Do we even have stats on this? It probably varies a lot state to state.
 
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Come to the Rio Grande Valley.

Everything is cheaper out here, including housing and Mortage and groceries.

Plus places like McAllen, Brownsville and South Padre Island, got a lively night life on the weekends.
If you're going to move to the border, the Imperial Valley may be the better bet. Mexicali believe it or not has better chicks than anywhere in the U.S.

Not that OP needs to border-hop though.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Most of my life I was fortunate enough to have about a 10 minute drive to work. Which was great, because then I could sleep later, and go to bed later. So it left me with most of my off time free.
 
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