"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Poll: Help with looking at options to move out

What do you think is the best option?

  • Closer to work but further from fun

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Midway between work and fun

    Votes: 1 33.3%
  • Closer to fun but further from work

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • You can't afford to move out without a roommate to get lower rent

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • You can't afford to move out at all, keep saving

    Votes: 2 66.7%

  • Total voters
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Remember, rent raises usually every year 3% - 5% (or more).
Rent doesn't typically rise much at all if you renew your lease, in my experience it's usually at most $10-20 a year when you renew, and some people are still paying rents based on prices ten years ago.
Rent does typically rise. There are a lot of factors that relate to rent increases.

Few people rent the same place for 7-10 years.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Come to the Rio Grande Valley.

Everything is cheaper out here, including housing and Mortage and groceries.

Plus places like McAllen, Brownsville and South Padre Island, got a lively night life on the weekends.
 

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Rent does typically rise. There are a lot of factors that relate to rent increases.

Few people rent the same place for 7-10 years.
You'd be surprised. I have a few buildings with tenants in their who've lived there since the 80s. Every year I raise them due to the increase of property taxes and expenses.
 

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Rent doesn't typically rise much at all if you renew your lease, in my experience it's usually at most $10-20 a year when you renew, and some people are still paying rents based on prices ten years ago.
I raise 3.5% - 5% every year. My average rent is $2k a month. So, that's an increase, every year some where between $70.00 - $100.00 a month on renewal. Those fvckers in Stamford raised my taxes almost $300 a month last year. Rest assured I am challenging them in February.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have a few buildings with tenants in their who've lived there since the 80s. Every year I raise them due to the increase of property taxes and expenses.
The whole point of renting is to have flexibility to move when needed.

Every year, the option exists to move without having to go through the ordeal of trying to sell a house.

Renting is better as a shorter term solution (less than 5 years in a specific location).
 

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From the U.S Census Bureau:

>>Rent prices in the United States have been increasing, but the rate of increase has varied by year and location:

>>As of August, rent growth had Rent prices vary by location, with some of the highest increases in Hartford, Cleveland, Louisville, Providence, and Cincinnati.

>>Rents increased 6.5% in Arizona, 8.2% in Florida, and 6.0% in Georgia (Arizona rent growth was not significantly different from growth in Florida or Georgia).

>>Factors that affect rent prices include inflation, housing supply, and regional demand. The Rental Housing Journal forecasts that rents will continue to rise in 2025 and 2026.
 

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The whole point of renting is to have flexibility to move when needed.

Every year, the option exists to move without having to go through the ordeal of trying to sell a house.

Renting is better as a shorter term solution (less than 5 years in a specific location).
As with everything in life, it depends. Rent is very expensive these days in New England and many of the major Mid-Atlantic cities. If one can spend $1400 a month on rent or $1400 a month on a mortgage, most times, the one with the mortgage will make out better in the long term. Plus, with rentals, all the expends are tax deductions which equals less money to Uncle Sam and the state.
 

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My man’s living in his own little world
Definitely happens with all rent-controlled unit and some states have harsher rent control restrictions in general that prevent rent from being raised too much. There are still people in NYC paying under $1000 for apartments.



Rent does typically rise. There are a lot of factors that relate to rent increases.

Few people rent the same place for 7-10 years.
Do we even have stats on this? It probably varies a lot state to state.
 
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Come to the Rio Grande Valley.

Everything is cheaper out here, including housing and Mortage and groceries.

Plus places like McAllen, Brownsville and South Padre Island, got a lively night life on the weekends.
If you're going to move to the border, the Imperial Valley may be the better bet. Mexicali believe it or not has better chicks than anywhere in the U.S.

Not that OP needs to border-hop though.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Most of my life I was fortunate enough to have about a 10 minute drive to work. Which was great, because then I could sleep later, and go to bed later. So it left me with most of my off time free.
 
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