"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
I saw my dad for two weekends a month.
When I was 13 my brother and I moved in with Dad and his new wife and baby.
So, yes and no?
DonGorgon
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DonGorgon said:i have no parents...lol.. but i have money and thats all humans care about..
only on Sosuave can I see broken people like this - I mean I see it in real life but not to this extent of frustration.
Money, really?
What I meant originally was - dad left or died or whatever, but he wasn't there for you during your formative years (3-18)
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Tortendieb
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I got a friend who grew up without a dad, and he doesn't have issues at all. On the contrary, he grew up to take responsibility and support his mum when she felt it was too much for her. He grew up to to be the man in the family, and he's one of the toughest go-getters I've ever known.
^^^Tortendieb said:So you want to have a connection between having no dad and being AFC? You can be AFC even with a dad, if he doesn't take charge and raise you to be a man.
I got a friend who grew up without a dad, and he doesn't have issues at all. On the contrary, he grew up to take responsibility and support his mum when she felt it was too much for her. He grew up to to be the man in the family, and he's one of the toughest go-getters I've ever known.
This guy is right,it's more damageful an afc dad and a dominant mother than no dad at all and a mother who doesnt play the empowered woman.
The problem is that usually a father figure push you to pass your limits and take action while a mother figure try to stop you even lowering your self esteem if it needs "you cant do that sport they are too big for you" line for example.
Or worse "do something for her so she will likes you",the beggining of an afc line.
However and afc dad who just confirm what the mother say or even worse he is treated as a powerless kid too is worse.
It can happen instead that if there's no father and the mother is submissive,the son manage to become more more dominant but lack the rules that a father figure gives,that's why many violent men come from that environment.
If he came to a board like this and looked up to some members he probably grew a shell and did ok...for awhile