"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Poligamy

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What could we learn from the past? Do you see any positive in it?
This is what makes me want to escape this society and retire with a woman in a remote location, build a small tribe of people, and cut off any access to internet
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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What could we learn from the past? Do you see any positive in it?
This is what makes me want to escape this society and retire with a woman in a remote location, build a small tribe of people, and cut off any access to internet
Good luck with that
 

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Polygamy, especially in countries with smaller populations, would result in massive inbreeding which is never a good thing. It would also make the dating market an even bigger disaster than it already is as there would be much less available women, unless cheating becomes normalized, or the women are polygamous too so that it goes both ways, which sounds like something that would end up in total chaos.

I think strict monogamy is the favored relationship model for good reasons, and the reason why we in the West have built the type of stable societies we have now. We may not have the biggest populations, but at least we are a population of quality people. Many countries around the world wouldn't be as poor as they are if their populations were reduced by 80% because of polygamy, rampant promiscuity, and having many children for no reason other than "family honor".
 

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Women prefer polygamy because there is a limited number of top 10% men, and they would rather share one than have to lower their standards
 

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It is still present in less developed countries - in more developed countries it was overtaken by LTRs (but only periodic/lasting few to X years, rinse&repeat) monogamy, which seems to be more attuned to human life cycle. Some rich guys may probably manage few informal LTRs when married, therefore have more children and also financial obligations but most of the HQ females would have never accepted another female openly in romantic relationship with her man, therefore it is probably the most popular in high money but low EQ/formal education development circles (artists, some early-starters entrepreneurs, successful influencers, -salesmen types, people that inherited money but did not earn them etc.).
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What could we learn from the past? Do you see any positive in it?
This is what makes me want to escape this society and retire with a woman in a remote location, build a small tribe of people, and cut off any access to internet
Go look into the social and economic outcomes of countries that have polygamy.
 

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What could we learn from the past? Do you see any positive in it?
This is what makes me want to escape this society and retire with a woman in a remote location, build a small tribe of people, and cut off any access to internet
Good luck with that.

 
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It's probably more natural than monogamy, but still presents a lot of problems. Any system involving the state is going to screw the individual.
 

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Go look into the social and economic outcomes of countries that have polygamy.
Which countries? The guy in the video is delusional. The feminism is all about empowering women (meaning any power value female has over a man - which is, mostly, sex-related) is amplified is man is forced to stay with her (therefore, be partially subdued by this power) therefore no, feminism will not boost polygamy ideas - rather, it will be as it was - females will compete actively for AAA man, reluctantly agree to be with other high tier male, allow to be courted by mid-to-high tier man (and enter relationships with some of them once AAA-A tier will become obviously unavailable to them) and will allow mid tier men to orbit them and low tier be their situational slaves from time (as it always was) i.e. punching bags for mockery or faked pity.

Therefore no, feminists will not accept polygamy idea, because it is not in their interest (feminism is an idea about social order but tweaked to the needs of females - mostly so-so in terms of attractiveness as really attractive females do not need it to be succesful just as really attractive men ("naturals") do not need manosphere/men's rights activism - men having legalised access to multiple females in formal relationships means redefinition of cheating as well as "white marriage" idea - it is also easy to imagine various male strategies like marrying for money (with female A) and later, for sex (with female B) which would instantly shift the power of relationship for female A.

Polygamy would also mean, that most attractive females would probably demotivate less attractive females (and males) from the formalised relationships (as there is more very attractive females than very attractive males, therefore AAA males would have it the best, then a significant number of very attractive females would monkey-branch en masse and a lot of less attractive people would get robbed from resources (because that's how it would effectively work for all these average looking guys paying for attention or females doing long range trips after guys that live above their social ladder but smiled few times to them and asked for coffee once or twice). Sounds like a recipe for social disaster.
 

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Go look into the social and economic outcomes of countries that have polygamy.
islam allows multiple wives... in a lot of Asian cultures in the not so distant past allowed wealthy men to have concubines and multiple wives. the trick was these men had to have resources to support these women.

depending on the environment, sometimes polygamy was beneficial to the tribe, country, etc... when all the men are killed in wars, when resources were scarce and only a few were able to obtain them, when most men died at the average of 30 due to the toils of everyday life, etc.. etc...

rarely in modern times, does polygamy make sense though...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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This works if you are in some sort of tribal setup. Not so well if you live in a modern society.

People often hyper focus on one aspect of things in the past that may "sound good" without looking at all of the downsides that it has and how it would pertain to today.

Those people are usually the people who would be considered "radicalized" because they are unwilling to even consider anything that goes against what they believe no matter what facts are presented.
 

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What benefits are there for a woman that is involved in a polygamist relationship?

-She gets a man that has more resources? She's almost giving up monogamy to gain support/access to a man with greater resources that she could not obtain otherwise?
-She's bi and gets to have sex with the other wives as well as dihk on demand? lol
 
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You want sister wives?
Sure... you know what happens when you get a group of women around each other all the time? All the periods start syncing up. No, they won't all be on their period at the same time. One will have pms while another is on the rag while another is just getting off the rag.
Sure, that sounds great right?
You know what else happens when you get a group of women around each other all the time? Drama.
We wish you luck with your sister wife colony away from civilization. We won't be able to read your posts since your civilization won't have the internet.

Wouldn't it just be easier to be a brother husband?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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