"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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POF - Looking for Friends?

guitaronfire411

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So apparently my bipolar ex is online most nights hours into the next day chatting up people to be friends of hers. I only know this because I am also on there and am finding it harder to get out there and meet people. PoF is good practice after recently becoming single.

On her profile she explicitedly states that she wants only a platonic relationship with no one night stands or FWB. Is she trying to fish for guys while protecting her butt incase she isn't interested in them? That is what I have read in many PoF discussions... It gives a girl an out if they aren't interested.

Thoughts?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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TheException

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Its their "defense" against being a s1ut.

They think that by putting the opposite of what they truly want, that guys wont be able to figure it out. But the better question is....why do you even care to ask about her? Shes obviously low quality and you shouldnt give a sh1t about her.

If Id have seen some "bpd ex" on a dating website....Id laugh to myself and think "the poor fool who deals with that one..." and go about my life. I wouldnt come to a forum to ask about her...
 

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"just friends" is a very efficient way for women on 'dating' sites, harvest a swarthe of orbiters, when she finds one she actually finds attractive or is the best overall package, she will produce the goods. in the meantime, she will still be approaching (messaging) the eye candy and opening her legs for them at will
 

marmel75

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Just friends=DTF
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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