BackInTheGame78
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Bumble is free
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
POF has converted to an almost full must pay site now
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
FlirtLife
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I'm curious how a "consumer report magazine" tested bumble.
Kotaix
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Just squash it. Don't give that app the time of day.
google the article online
FlirtLife
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You think it's helpful telling me to look for an article with an unknown title in an unknown magazine?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Google dating sites consumer report it should pop up
FlirtLife
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Okay, then an article from 6 years ago ("December 29, 2016") is the top result. For "quality of matches" it rates every single website as "worst".
Online Dating: Match Me If You Can
Do online dating sites really work? Are they safe? Are some better than others? Consumer Reports put the sites to the test.
www.consumerreports.org
POF is freaking hilarious. It's like an episode of the Twilight Zone. The more obnoxious and unattractive they are, the pickier they are. Can you imagine them acting like that in real life? They're all angry, extremely bitter and don't take care of themselves.
Its rammed full of women who proclaim they are now ready to settle down and find the one, they are always the ones who have multiple children from another guy, isn't it strange they didn't want to settle down before.
The funniest one was seeing a woman who said herself that was overweight and dressed slovenly, actually say that the man must be well-dressed, good-looking, smells nice, works hard and doesn't talk to any exes. Oh, and you must love her for her. I nearly fell on my chair with laughter at how she could be so entitled and have so little self awareness . The site is full of 2s thinking they are 9s and they want a 10
I know I'm probably preaching to the converted but wow, it's full of the worst people I've seen.
Its rammed full of women who proclaim they are now ready to settle down and find the one, they are always the ones who have multiple children from another guy, isn't it strange they didn't want to settle down before.
The funniest one was seeing a woman who said herself that was overweight and dressed slovenly, actually say that the man must be well-dressed, good-looking, smells nice, works hard and doesn't talk to any exes. Oh, and you must love her for her. I nearly fell on my chair with laughter at how she could be so entitled and have so little self awareness . The site is full of 2s thinking they are 9s and they want a 10
I know I'm probably preaching to the converted but wow, it's full of the worst people I've seen.
CAPSLOCK BANDIT
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Try Boo or Badoo, they aren't totally free but you'll be able to send some messages for free each day but you can just keep making new accounts and basically send infinite free messages
Solomon
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Was so easy to smash thots back in the day not gonna lie a few hotties, but mostly average or subpar chicks (chubbies lol)
BUT POF was super easy, I stopped using it 7 years ago because it was nothing but bottom of the barrell walmart gargolye looking chicks by then but the best time was from 2009-2013 Was just easy, after 2013 it went downhill rapidly
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Divorced w 3
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I didn’t too tinder or apps much but when I did it was *****s and had no issue. I got a girl off on phone no issue before meetip Easy ons
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Yep! That's when I had great success. All you had to do was keep logging in so your profile pic would stay at the top of the page and it was money. I'd sit there on my PC at work and pimp POF all day long. It always showed who was logged in or last active and some of the girls would give me schitt but it worked. It was before cell phones got smart.
It's been Plenty of Fuglies for a long time now.
The bottom of the barrel lot act like they're 10s and won't accept anything less. Was it always been that bad on there?
Tattooed single mums who have nose piercings and an awful attitude is 0 for 4 in my eyes. I'll never log on again
Tattooed single mums who have nose piercings and an awful attitude is 0 for 4 in my eyes. I'll never log on again
Solomon
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I dont know why anyone would bother using POF now when other apps like Hinge, Tinder, Bumble are far better unless you are down really bad and have to dumpster dive in radioactive waste you may have to evaluate yourself. POF has been dead for years as has OKCupid
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Agree with this.
I moved to Dallas in the early 2010s. POF and OkCupid were the big dating websites at the time as this was before Tinder's launch date.
1-2 weeks before my arrival date in Dallas, I was sending messages and arranging phone calls with POF and OkCupid women. I had multiple dates lined up upon arrival. I had to do internet research on date venues in Dallas to make it look like I knew what I was doing. I didn't even have employment lined up yet and I had dates set up. That's good. I was emphasizing the looks and personality part of Game at that point. I was still under 30 so I could do that. I got off to a good start in Dallas from a quantity standpoint with POF and OkCupid but there were some "one date, no sex, no 2nd date" type occurrences.
I also did the re-logging in that @The Duke used too.
Soon after, I read "Day Bang", make some friends and transitioned more towards daygame and nightgame as I got to know more people in my new home city.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I can't help but laugh at the generic "my children will always come first." Line. You look, and they're not even divorced, so we know that makes their wonderful children don't we ?
If the children were that important, wouldn't at least a few of them still be with their partners for the sake of the kids? They can't have all been with dreadful men.
I can't remember this many single parents ten years ago. It seems no longer to carry any stigma. No wonder society is broken.
If the children were that important, wouldn't at least a few of them still be with their partners for the sake of the kids? They can't have all been with dreadful men.
I can't remember this many single parents ten years ago. It seems no longer to carry any stigma. No wonder society is broken.
I didn't realise how bad it actually was. Radioactive waste hahaha