"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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POF Chick im seeing saw my online profile

sirkjd

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I am on both OKC and POF.

Met a chick from POF in Real Life, been on 3 dates. Had sex on the third.

Meeting her this weekend. She seems a little bit attached.

Haven`t logged in POF. But I've kept communicating with a few other chicks on OKC.

Last night I noticed a blank profile of a chick the same age as the one Ive been dating visited my profile. (on which it says the last time I've logged in).

That made me worried, what if the chick i'm seeing saw that I am still at least semi active on online dating sites?

What are you guys thoughts on this?

Can this be a make or break deal with chicks?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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SgtSplacker

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In the case of POF I did notice it shows last time online. You can say the app on your phone keeps you signed in. Or just use OKC while your dating her.
 

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is she still on pof? be your ar$e she is still logging in, just be upfront, you arent exclusive, if she sees you online, = she is or has been, online, if she has a fake profile, she is stalking you = red flag, be prepared for the .."my friend is on pof/ok cupid and she says she recognised you on there"
 

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Even if she saw you on there, you've been on 3 dates. You're not married. Hell, you're barely even in the category of "dating".

Don't do that thing where you convince yourself that women are these emotional, relationship-centric, delicate creatures. I've made that mistake myself. If she wants to be exclusive, let her ask, and then make your decision. Until then, keep spinning plates and assume that she is doing the same.
 

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Yeah, I agree. That is what I wanted to hear.

I like the chick, and like I said she seems pretty attached already.. kinda would prefer her not knowing I am still active on OKC. But I want to keep spinning plates.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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