"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Been doing a few cold approaches here and there. Rusty as heck compared to 2019, but today I finally got a number close.

I have not been doing a lot of approaches, but I am warming up little by little.
You are going to need to warm up some more. It is possible to get rusty with approaching. Guys getting out of long LTRs and marriages experience this.

There's no point to getting a phone number unless she's agreed to a first date with you during the in-person approach. It's much more difficult to sell a date over text messaging (the likely form of communication) than right there in-person. Also, if you actually want to get a woman on the phone for an actual voice conversation, that is quite difficult to do. I've noticed that as problematic since circa 2010.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Couple more cold approaches today. One was very short, the other conversation lasted a few minutes but just wasn't feeling any chemistry.

I'm going to keep at it and get better. I'm confident that this is going to work for me.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Good man. She seems to wanted to build some rapport before she agrees to a date. Just wait until she double texts you or re-initiates the conversation or text her in 2 weeks to “keep in touch” and see if she asks you out.

Good job though and keep it up.
 
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My observations:

The goth scene is back with college aged girls. I saw a lot of hunched postures, probably from excessive device use. Many of these girls do not put in the effort to look nice as they did even as of a few years ago.

My motives: I'm 38 and I'm looking at the 18 to 22 crowd. I'm going for pretty faces, high energy, physically fit girls, etc. I estimate that these girls are at the top 1% of the female population.

I've approached nine girls in the last few days, and here are the results


5/9 were underage (I'm guessing 15 to 17)

3/9 cold shoulders

1/9 had a short conversation, but her interest level was about a 2/10


So far, so good
How is this "good"? Bro, that's like a 0% batting average.
 

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Good man. She seems to wanted to build some rapport before she agrees to a date. Just wait until she double texts you or re-initiates the conversation or text her in 2 weeks to “keep in touch” and see if she asks you out.

Good job though and keep it up.
My read on it, is that it is the end of that conversation. I posted that for commentary.


How is this "good"? Bro, that's like a 0% batting average.
If you don't directly control the outcome, then taking the right action is a victory of in itself. I was just happy to get out there and try.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Did a warm approach yesterday (~6.5/10), got her number and set up a date next weekend.

Screenshots of the rest of the conversation
This girl just texted me out of the blue today.


I'm going to do some more approaches Saturday.
 

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Told you. They always done back if you let it simmer it down for a little bit.
Yeah I didn't think she was that interested but it looks like you were right. We'll see though. I'm going to put some more irons in the fire.
 

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Since she initiated contact, she most likely wants to see you. However, it does seem like she would prefer to video chat or FaceTime before an actual meetup. I hear this is a new vetting process women have now days to remove potential suitors from their dating pool. In my opinion, you have two options:

1. Text her something like, “Hey, I feel bad for not showing up for our chess game. I was worried I might beat you too easily. Let me make it up to you with a video call.” Arrange a time when both of you can talk privately and get ready. Aim for a call that lasts around 10 to 15 minutes. During the call, ask her if she’d like to meet up for coffee to get to know each other better. Present it as a new opportunity rather than a repeat.

2. Alternatively, text her directly and suggest meeting up for coffee. This sound bold but it will be the best route if you do not like her as much. You can assess if she declines your invitation if you should start putting more effort onto other things

Either way, you need to ask her out now. I would have done it after the chess game but it is what it is.
 

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I went to the mall today and after that I went grocery shopping. I saw one girl who in my eyes was worth approaching. For me, I would give her 9/10 in looks; short, brunette, probably around 18 or 19 ish, mixed white/hispanic. I didn't approach her because I did not feel like I was in the mood.

Your actions affirm who you are. If you tell yourself that something about yourself is not good enough to express yourself properly, then you teach yourself that you are fundamentally inadequate. That's one consequence to cowardice. As Ayn Rand said, "I'm not brave enough to be a coward."
 

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Approached a 9/10 girl today. Had a pleasant five minute conversation where she smiled a lot and was interested in what we were talking about (health and the human body). Didn't go anywhere after that. She rejected me offering my phone number. There were a few things I'll remember to do differently the next time. It was a pleasant experience for both of us but ultimately she wasn't interested.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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