"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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the girl i met the other day told me yesterday in a convo even though i havent touched the subject that she's is not prepared for a relationship and she thinks now we were going to fast,and then that bull**** it's not you its me...

what does she mean with im not prepared?


she calls me, and shows interest, but whats on her mind, does she only want me as a **** buddy or something?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by NoMoreAFC
the girl i met the other day told me yesterday in a convo that she's is not prepared for a relationship and she thinks now we were going to fast,and then that bull**** it's not you its me...

what does she mean with im not prepared?


she calls me, and shows interest, but whats on her mind, does she only want me as a **** buddy or something?
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It means she's not romantically interested in you, and shows you interest because she wants you as an emotional tampon.

Tell her that's she's absolutely right. You don't want a relationship either, and to take a fvcking hike.

Watch the attitude change that ensues.
 
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what ever is gona happen let it hapen, dont force your self to define it, flirt with her (untill your sure she is not an aw) and let whatever hapens hapen......don't put all your balls in one basket, they might get crushed.
 
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then she came with a strange convo about how would i react if she had a kid, if i still wanted her or not, the truth is she doesnt have any kids but why testing me?


edit: so you guys think its better to move on before i get into deep****?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Stay with it if nothing else atleast you will learn somethign from her.

Guys here are to quick to next.

Stay with it

Ninja Out
 
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Sorry. It's over dude. Just forget about her.

If anything, she's just feeling you out for her own benefit.
 
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If you want to waste your time with no possibility of sex then by all means keep talking with her.
 
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then she came with a strange convo about how would i react if she had a kid, if i still wanted her or not, the truth is she doesnt have any kids but why testing me?
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You should've made fun of the whole kid thing
 
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Originally posted by NoMoreAFC
the girl i met the other day told me yesterday in a convo even though i havent touched the subject that she's is not prepared for a relationship and she thinks now we were going to fast,and then that bull**** it's not you its me...

what does she mean with im not prepared?


she calls me, and shows interest, but whats on her mind, does she only want me as a **** buddy or something?
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How long ago did you meet her?
"Goin to fast"? What have you done together that you are moving so fast?

Sounds like she is shooting you down, has she been touching you on the arm, etc. Flirting?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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^ funny. Read the bible. I mean you should try and find something about mindset. WHy the fuc* do you care that she is dumping you? A true DJ could get a gf anytime and it should be the same with you. I hate to tell you to do your homework, but yeah read the bible. And the book of Shuma Gora.

I try and have 5 to 6 girls going at any given time.
 
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It's her way of saying you're not pimp enough tohave her. It's either because she sees you as not worthy enough or there are other men who she wants to have her fun with.
 
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Walk away.

Just walk away.
 
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classic stuff, the replies should cover
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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