"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I don't know wtf my problem is but ALMOST every girl i get a number from or meet through a friend or whatever always gives me the same F-ing line "can i call u back?" and of course i know they wont because they never do. Am i not finding a common ground, interesting, or good looking enough? check out my profile im not that bad looking. I have the upmost confidence with women but it doesnt help me. Im just sick and tired of playing the games. y cant girls be blunt and say ur ugly? i would much rather that! I just need input on how u guys get dates from approach, talk, get #, or whatever process u guys use. A RESPONSE WOULD BE GREATLY APPRECIATED.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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why do you have a male symbol on your chest? Not to diss or anything, but thats a symbol the gay population embraces.

Other than that, what exactly are you doing wrong on the fone? Are you talking too long? do you bore them? are you too eager?

we need to know exactly what a typical phone conversation consists of to help you
 

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Dude, when the chyck says can I call you back, say NO. tell her you have to do something and now is the only time you can talk. take control man. show that bytch who the top dawg is. never give into a woman. remember to play with her. you could say, "you wont be able to call me back babe, I am on a flight to Bora Bora right now and I wont be back for 3 days" Or say something CF like that. dont be a puss
 

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my phone conversations arn't very long and consist usually of small talk. You know "what r u doin?" Then ill ask them out casually like "so u doin anything on thursday." A common thing is i dont establish a common ground, but thats what the dates for right? Or maybe i need to talk to them more. But i like the comment by the other guy saying, "well this is the only time i can talk" I did read the DJB and incorporate using names and showing i understand and am listening. As far as my tat goes i like it and think it brings out my masculinity. But most people dont c it from that angle. If it is gay then im harmless to women right? ha ha =:)
 
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They are giving you the right phone number but not the time of day?

Could be having second thoughts once you leave their sight. Try talking them longer when you first meet them and before you ask for their number - reach a common ground here and increase her interest level with your initial charm and wit!

You could also suggest an activity right away when she gives you the number and see how she responds! Say, "Do you like to bowl?" No! How about going fishing or flying a kite? :)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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