"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Please recommend NLP books! Thanks!

Demon

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I'm looking for a set (or list) of recommended books on Neuro Linguistic Programming.

I'd like to apply NLP to advertising and copywriting, although, I'm sure it has already been applied. It wouldn't hurt to empower advertising with an extra layer of NLP.

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Read first Introducing neuro-linguistic programming: psychological skills for understanding and influencing people
by Joseph O'Connor and John Seymour

It's an overview of NLP, the main characteristics.
It's very good.

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I just found Frogs to Princes at the college library. So I'm going to read this one.

I'll let you know how it is. In the meantime plenty of coursework to do!
 

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This book is not that obvious about NLP, but I have found many parallels. It is called "The New Psycho-Cybernetics" by Dr Maltz and edited by marketing guru Dan Kennedy who uses it himself. It is a self-help book, but by far it is the best one I've read. No NLP book comes close.

For pure NLP, I would suggest "Tranceformations," by Bandler and Grinder. the best NLP book I've read. This book is quickly becoming a commodity to have so hurry and find your copy somewhere. It is also very applicable for advertising. If you add to it "Influence" by Robert Cialdini, you've got an irresistable combination.

And for a little newer NLP, read "Time For a Change" by Bandler, a self-help book but has good stuff in it like the NLP attitude which is absolutely crucial before you learn any technique.

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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