"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Please recommend NLP books! Thanks!

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I'm looking for a set (or list) of recommended books on Neuro Linguistic Programming.

I'd like to apply NLP to advertising and copywriting, although, I'm sure it has already been applied. It wouldn't hurt to empower advertising with an extra layer of NLP.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Read first Introducing neuro-linguistic programming: psychological skills for understanding and influencing people
by Joseph O'Connor and John Seymour

It's an overview of NLP, the main characteristics.
It's very good.

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I just found Frogs to Princes at the college library. So I'm going to read this one.

I'll let you know how it is. In the meantime plenty of coursework to do!
 

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This book is not that obvious about NLP, but I have found many parallels. It is called "The New Psycho-Cybernetics" by Dr Maltz and edited by marketing guru Dan Kennedy who uses it himself. It is a self-help book, but by far it is the best one I've read. No NLP book comes close.

For pure NLP, I would suggest "Tranceformations," by Bandler and Grinder. the best NLP book I've read. This book is quickly becoming a commodity to have so hurry and find your copy somewhere. It is also very applicable for advertising. If you add to it "Influence" by Robert Cialdini, you've got an irresistable combination.

And for a little newer NLP, read "Time For a Change" by Bandler, a self-help book but has good stuff in it like the NLP attitude which is absolutely crucial before you learn any technique.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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