Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Wasn't intended for you, sorry. On the topic however..Originally posted by So pimp its scary
I don't go to ASF, so this has nothing to do with which board is better... not everyone is noobs, but I've not qualms about pointing it out... just the same way that the true players set me straight when I first joined.
You and the person you quote truly do not get the point that I am trying to make... Even in my b!tching and complaining, there is a message in there, for those willing to read between the lines. No, the posts will not change, the questions will always be the same from the noobs... BUT every so often someone with the glimmer of promise shows up coming from the right state of mind and asking the right questions... these are the people that are getting flooded out and are the ones that deserve to have their questions answered because asking the right questions always leads to the right result.
The problem is that I've used my eyes, and I see the truth... I'm just trying to share the turth with people that are in the same situation I was in almost 5 years ago now when I first started reading this website.
It wasn't meant so much as an attack, just that this is frustrating... wanting to help people out, but losing the very means through which I can help teach.Originally posted by Docs
Wasn't intended for you, sorry. On the topic however..
I do see the point, so I do not see the purpose of the attack, unless purely accidental. I wouldn't of written a post if it wasn't to point out the same things you just said. Meh I say.
Somebody (maybe We) should really collaberate on a thread of people to ask questions to, or even a external shared email address or something. That would make it ample easy for people scared to speak out, or afraid of getting flamed, or worse yet, losing the thread in the pages of history.
Persay?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.