Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Wasn't intended for you, sorry. On the topic however..Originally posted by So pimp its scary
I don't go to ASF, so this has nothing to do with which board is better... not everyone is noobs, but I've not qualms about pointing it out... just the same way that the true players set me straight when I first joined.
You and the person you quote truly do not get the point that I am trying to make... Even in my b!tching and complaining, there is a message in there, for those willing to read between the lines. No, the posts will not change, the questions will always be the same from the noobs... BUT every so often someone with the glimmer of promise shows up coming from the right state of mind and asking the right questions... these are the people that are getting flooded out and are the ones that deserve to have their questions answered because asking the right questions always leads to the right result.
The problem is that I've used my eyes, and I see the truth... I'm just trying to share the turth with people that are in the same situation I was in almost 5 years ago now when I first started reading this website.
It wasn't meant so much as an attack, just that this is frustrating... wanting to help people out, but losing the very means through which I can help teach.Originally posted by Docs
Wasn't intended for you, sorry. On the topic however..
I do see the point, so I do not see the purpose of the attack, unless purely accidental. I wouldn't of written a post if it wasn't to point out the same things you just said. Meh I say.
Somebody (maybe We) should really collaberate on a thread of people to ask questions to, or even a external shared email address or something. That would make it ample easy for people scared to speak out, or afraid of getting flamed, or worse yet, losing the thread in the pages of history.
Persay?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.