"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Platform Decay

Deep Dish

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I recently learned about a theory of platform decay. It applies to social media, but also Amazon, Spotify, and ride sharing apps.

First, a platform is good to users, to draw people in.

Then, once enough people are locked in, they will screw over users to cater to business users. Once businesses are locked in, they will screw over business users to seize all value for itself.

Then, the platform dies.

Cory Doctorow, who calls this ensh*ttification, has said this is the inevitable consequence of a dual buyer and seller market.

This just happened with Spotify which now will not pay royalties to musicians who are deemed to not generate enough listens, screwing over small musicians.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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It's the consequence of practically being a monopoly. What alternative is there? There are competitors, but they can't really compete.

For social media an alternative platform is worthless if their friends and followers aren't even on it. On Spotify users won't switch because no other platform can offer that much music, the artists won't switch because no other platform can offer that many listeners. YouTube also has this problem, viewers stay because that's where their favorite content creators are, the content creators stay because that's where their viewers are.

What all these platforms have in common is that they don't produce anything, they just facilitate a very convenient way for buyers and seller to meet in one place, while leeching a cut from everyone. Their entire value lies in a lot of people using their service, which is also why it's near impossible to compete. It's a catch-22, to realistically compete you need a ton of users to give value to your platform, but you need value on your platform to get a ton of users.
 

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Caleb Jones (Alpha Male 2.0, formerly Blackdragon) had a similar model discussing platform decay with online dating platforms.

 

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It's just a new form of planned obsolescence. Capitalism at it's finest.
I would say it's the opposite of planned obsolescence. Physical products need to become unusable after a time to motivate the customer to get the new model. Online platforms seek to do the opposite, keep you using it for as long as possible while they milk as much value as they can out of you.

In most cases you're not even the customer on these platforms, you're the product to be sold.
 

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So what happened to Myspace? Does the decay theory apply?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

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