"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Platform Decay

Deep Dish

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I recently learned about a theory of platform decay. It applies to social media, but also Amazon, Spotify, and ride sharing apps.

First, a platform is good to users, to draw people in.

Then, once enough people are locked in, they will screw over users to cater to business users. Once businesses are locked in, they will screw over business users to seize all value for itself.

Then, the platform dies.

Cory Doctorow, who calls this ensh*ttification, has said this is the inevitable consequence of a dual buyer and seller market.

This just happened with Spotify which now will not pay royalties to musicians who are deemed to not generate enough listens, screwing over small musicians.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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It's the consequence of practically being a monopoly. What alternative is there? There are competitors, but they can't really compete.

For social media an alternative platform is worthless if their friends and followers aren't even on it. On Spotify users won't switch because no other platform can offer that much music, the artists won't switch because no other platform can offer that many listeners. YouTube also has this problem, viewers stay because that's where their favorite content creators are, the content creators stay because that's where their viewers are.

What all these platforms have in common is that they don't produce anything, they just facilitate a very convenient way for buyers and seller to meet in one place, while leeching a cut from everyone. Their entire value lies in a lot of people using their service, which is also why it's near impossible to compete. It's a catch-22, to realistically compete you need a ton of users to give value to your platform, but you need value on your platform to get a ton of users.
 

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Caleb Jones (Alpha Male 2.0, formerly Blackdragon) had a similar model discussing platform decay with online dating platforms.

 

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It's just a new form of planned obsolescence. Capitalism at it's finest.
I would say it's the opposite of planned obsolescence. Physical products need to become unusable after a time to motivate the customer to get the new model. Online platforms seek to do the opposite, keep you using it for as long as possible while they milk as much value as they can out of you.

In most cases you're not even the customer on these platforms, you're the product to be sold.
 

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So what happened to Myspace? Does the decay theory apply?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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