Plates - what's the magic number?

[Murk]

With enough plates in rotation you don't tolerate bad behaviour (flakes, general disrespect), you subconsciously project value and abundance without any effort, you're too busy for real, too busy to care, to busy to argue a point or try to claw back frame. You let things be and they magically come round full circle (sometimes they don't).

I've learned it's a constant work in progress, you can't rest on your laurels because in 1 week you can lose 2-3 plates (depending on your threshold for bullsh!t (and tendency to be a pr!ck yourself)) and be left with 1 or none. You keep some on the periphery, the ones you know are just a text and a phone call away from rejoining the roster. Some need more attention - it's these I struggle with. Some are not content with being bit part players, they try to dominate your time and attention. These ones need to be enjoyed while they're around then let go of (unless genuine high quality and worth the time/resources).

At some points I've felt overwhelmed, I can't remember conversations and regularly get "you've asked me that before you're obviously talking to too many girls". Or some days I feel like withdrawing and literally not speaking to a girl for 3-4 days just work, friends family. They don't like that.

I have dates arranged with 2 girls this week - I sense I'm losing my 2 regulars - one I forced to take the morning after pill Friday and she went off at me for only talking to her to make sure she took it (not true, but now true) and the other found out I took coke on a date with her and is just being a whiny b!tch and way too clingy (but hb 8.5 and great sex).

What's a good number, or is it about being a fluid DJ and being formless like water, adapting to your current needs and wants. No dates/sex/women for a week? Fine. Different girl every day? Fine.

 

[fanatic22]

If I feel like I'm losing interest in a girl or do not have time for her I just tell her "hey just fyi I'm going to be really busy for the next few weeks, I got slammed with projects at work" so she's still available as an option in the future if I change my mind or lose higher quality plates.

In general I think 3 is a good minimum if you have a normal work/life balance and more than 5 is probably too complicated unless you are a very high energy individual.

 

[Murk]

"hey just fyi I'm going to be really busy for the next few weeks, I got slammed with projects at work"

MMMMM I like that.

I'll not only use that, but I'll use it on girls I forgot about "sorry had so much work come up, free now though" kind of thing.

3 is a good number - 1 main 2 side dishes?

 

[Macaframalama]

or is it about being a fluid DJ and being formless like water, adapting to your current needs and wants

This. I'm currently spinning zero. Starting a new job, focusing on finances and dropping a few pounds and ain't got time for that bullchit. If I need pvssy, it's ONS or FWB.

 

[Toddz]

4-5 plates in my opinion. You have to keep the communication between seeing them at a bare minimum, but always keep spinning them by setting up future plans after a night with them. The key is to establish the dynamic of the interaction early on this way so that you're not doing a lot of work in between. If you communicate a lot with one plate, she's going to try sucking you into a relationship. Some plates I won't talk to for a month or two in between. Then, I'll usually get a random text like "hey..."

Also to be succesful at spinning plates like this, you have to be a freak in bed and know how to please a woman. If you're lame in bed, she won't be coming back for more.

 

[Murk]

4-5 plates in my opinion. You have to keep the communication between seeing them at a bare minimum, but always keep spinning them by setting up future plans after a night with them. The key is to establish the dynamic of the interaction early on this way so that you're not doing a lot of work in between. If you communicate a lot with one plate, she's going to try sucking you into a relationship. Some plates I won't talk to for a month or two in between. Then, I'll usually get a random text like "hey..."

Also to be succesful at spinning plates like this, you have to be a freak in bed and know how to please a woman. If you're lame in bed, she won't be coming back for more.

Yeah I think talking to them too much has been my problem, I'll have one I like and keep engaging when really I need to shut them down. Like right now, I'm talking to none of them, reached out to a couple tonight that I haven't spoken to in a few weeks and I have 2 dates for next week, on top of the 2 for this week.

I think minimal comms is key.

On the sex thing, I always make them come, I'm very sexual and adventurous, my d!ck is nice i.e too big to slam home doggy without warming up first, even then it's "ouch" but not too big I can't do my thing. I always think I could put more work in though and that some other guy out there is banging them better than me, he probably is, we can't all be the best.

 

[Spaz]

3 plates is the maximum, anything more is not sustainable in the long run.

To keep each plate satisfied you'll need to spend time at least once per week.

It's tiring and would come to a stage where you'll just feel it's a waste of your time when you could be doing something else.

My advice, get as many plates as possible and then enter into an LTR with the best of em all. The rest you'll have to dismiss but keep them on friendly terms (orbiters) as a fall back plan.

 

[lizardking82]

I have kept up to 3 plates with one main plate in between them (the main one still around) and it is tiring enough even if you decide not to talk to them much.

If you're new to this women thing, go for it, don't count the number of the girl;s you're spinning. Spin as much as you can. If you're spinning less than you want, you'll be hungry for more. If you're spinning more than you need, you'll feel burned and will retreat. Just experiment, especially in your early 20s, experiment with different types of relationships, numbers of plates, types of girls. Nature will itself show you what you want, how much of it you want. Trust your gut, always.

 

[Mazer]

Two or three. I always leave a day in between banging each plate. I have sex marathons with my plates and my penis is so sore the next day to the point where its painful. maybe I should stop wacking off too haha I tried four plates but quickly burnt out, was moody as ****, became more work than pleasure.

 

[Glassguy]

3 seems like the magic number when I am spinning plates. The 3rd one always gets less attention and it seems as though that spot is a constant rotation and I can never keep the same one for more than a few weeks or a month, but enough time to go out for drinks a couple of times and smash.

 

[RangerMIke]

This. I'm currently spinning zero. Starting a new job, focusing on finances and dropping a few pounds and ain't got time for that bullchit. If I need pvssy, it's ONS or FWB.

This is good. Right after I divorced 11 years ago I took a year off from chicks to get my head straight.

But to answer the question... at least 2. ZERO is better than one... you never really want to find yourself in a place where you are relying on just one chick.

How many you can date at the same time really is an individual decision. For me... more than 3 gets hard to do since I'm older now and have teenage daughters than take a lot of my time.

 

[wifehunter]

How many girl's names can you remember?

 

[marmel75]

I am usually good at 3-4...at one point it was 7 but that was way too stressful...I started dropping them one by one til I ended up with 4 and then one of the plates dropped out on her won which left 3 which was good

 

[Spaz]

I estimate that I've slept with over 60 and I am dam proud to say that there are a few whose names I do not remember.

Also proud that I've fvucked multiple chicks with thw same name (a couple of Lisas and Michelles).

I believe that men in general goes through life with only on average 3-4 sexual partners vs women who has at the very least 6-8 sexual partners in comparison.

At 60, you did better then good.

 

[MrWood]

im still 1/1 partner/age ratio (52)

 

[Murk]

She’s crying because I harassed her to take the morning after pill, bye b*tch.

New some challengers appear:

I do enjoy this game. Obviously the beast from OLD is getting swirved I may get her to come to mine when I’m feeling wreckless and bored. This is minimal effort.

 

[Red Legg]

There is a favorite country song of mine by "The Oak Ridge Boys" that says "Trying to love two women is like a ball and chain.Trying to love two women is like a ball and chain..Sometimes the pleasure ain't worth the strain.It's a long old grind,and it tires your mind" ANY man who has had more than one women in his life in any capacity KNOWS this song is true..2 or more women are a damn strain.3 women is just an awful headache..I have had up to 4 and I thought my head would explode.

 

[Toddz]

Yeah you need to cut down the communication even more or else you're going to get burned out. To me, there is really nothing to talk about except for setting up the next rendezvous. I don't care about her day, what she did over the weekend, how work is, none of that. Women don't care about it either. Just ask when they're free and make plans, that's it. You can catch up all you want when you're together.

 

[Spaz]

There is a favorite country song of mine by "The Oak Ridge Boys" that says "Trying to love two women is like a ball and chain.Trying to love two women is like a ball and chain..Sometimes the pleasure ain't worth the strain.It's a long old grind,and it tires your mind" ANY man who has had more than one women in his life in any capacity KNOWS this song is true..2 or more women are a damn strain.3 women is just an awful headache..I have had up to 4 and I thought my head would explode.

1 LTR and 1 plate in the city you live in, 1 plate in another city that you travel frequently for business is ideal.

 

[Murk]

This the girl you were fallin for? You could do way better than this girl

We look similar. If I told people you were my younger bro they’d believe me

Nonono

I'm not falling for any of these broads - this is all strictly plate material. The one I slightly caught feelings for was a blonde - solid 8.5/10

I reigned in the contact and she stayed at my place last night after I went on an awful bumble date. I managed to re-calibrate the relationship and downgrade it slightly.