"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Plate theory
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
In2theGame
Master Don Juan
From my experience, when you're messing around with multiple Women, there is a very high probability those Women are also talking to and messing around with other Men.
The only way she wouldn't be is if you are acting like you want a relationship with her and actually want to be with her but even then, If you and the Woman have not discussed being together, she's more than likely messing with other guys. at the bare minimum, talking to other guys.
Another point is how much she values you compared to the other guy(s). She will be more lenient towards the guy she REALLY likes compared to anyone else. This is why a girl could be messing around with you but when the guy she really likes wants more of her attention or wants to be with her, she vanishes and ends up exclusively with that guy even though she's been fvcking around with multiple dudes.
Many Men are under the illusion that they are the only Man that Woman is fvcking, ESPECIALLY if that Woman is a 7+. This is why it's important to be upfront and straight forward with what you want from Women. They are masters at making you "think" you are the only guy but a Man with experience know's she's full of sh*t.
Hey, Women are very horny too, I would argue more so than Men, so they are looking for multiple D*ck if they know they aren't with someone exclusively.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.