"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Plans with a vegan

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It's been a while guys, howdy to everyone that missed me (hah). I'll be back on the boards soon to start a new bootcamp with a buddy and try to go all the way through this time instead of becoming content with my results.

OK, with that said.

I want to give this lady I'm taking out a night to remember, hopefully a proper stuffing. She's somewhat odd though and I'd like some tips if possible. Here's everything I know.

She's a Hira Krishna. That means no meat. She loves animals, her major is film, is reading 'Wicked', originally from Texas (now in FL and moving to Boston), and she's a Hollister model. I made out with her one drunk night a long time ago, but messed up my chances because I couldn't get her name right.

Any ideas or plans would be great, and I wouldn't appreciate "get her drunk" cause I'm on a cycle right and can't drink.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Isnt Krishna some kinda cult? I've dated a cult girl before, and trust me, it aint good. Cultists are usually nutjobs.

Otherwise, don't treat her special. Just because she's a cultist doesn't mean you have to tiptoe around her. I guess the only thing is not eat meat before making out with her,
 

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this girl sounds like bad news to me

any vegans are bad new to me lol
 

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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hare_krishna

Most serious 'Hare Krishna' practitioners live according to strict rules. For example it is expected that initiates take vows to abstain from all forms of drugs and intoxicants, (including caffeine); avoid eating any meat, fish and eggs; abstain from gambling; and also forgo all sexual relations except for purposes of procreation within marriage
Run for the hills.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Well she obviously doesn't follow them that strictly if she got caught drunk.

Honestly man, you are looking to into this. She doesn't eat meat, fine, just don't eat meat. Treat her like any other girl. Sometimes I think getting all the knowledge from this site gets guys confused and overanalyzing everything.
 

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Film major... find a really good foriegn film for her to come watch.

Cook a meal from andrew weil's website, he has a lot of really good vegetarian meals. I eat them myself, and I hate vegetables.. so it has to be good.

I'd also break out the wine, sargia and fruit. You should make sure that you watch the movie sitting on a bed. A couch is too proper and uncomfortable, plus it just doesn't make you feel like natural lovers.
 

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Over-analyzing is a good way to put it. The only thing that has really helped me is the encouragement to get off my ass and socialize until you get laid.

All great advice, thanks especially to damage and everywomanshero. I broke off the date. I'm about to go through boot again and I don't want to be stuck on a single female. Peash.
 

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If you're of the same religion, or at least willing to hand your balls to her you'll do fine.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Hira Krishna
That's Hare Krishna (or Krsna), and they're not vegans.

They love milk and cheese. So they'd be technically willing to swallow.

On the other hand, nada until marriage! LOL! They're way more strict than catholics in that respect.

Oh well, go out with her a few times. It will be an enriching experience.
 

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Lmao. And worse than catholics? I'd like to order a bullet, preferrably aimed to my brain, please.
 

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Just about every restaurant has salad. If she can't stand the idea of you eating a big thick steak in front of her, then you're gonna have conflicts down the line anyway.

Or just do something that doesn't involve eating.
 

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show her the error of her ways......host a BBQ :p
 

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Offer to toss her salad.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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