"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So I got myself a copy of the 8 week boot camp, and I want to start doing some of the exercises described in the pdf.

I'm 19 so I can't go clubbing, and since I'm new in San Francisco, I don't have any friends in the city that I can go out with. I work from home so I'm basically at my apartment all day, and I live in a pretty sterile part of the city.

Help me brainstorm places where I can meet girls around my age! I want a long enough list so that I can't use lack of places to go as an excuse to not go out at all.

I know girls are everywhere, and I shouldn't have to go to a specific place to find them, but I'm pretty shy and I can't even imagine starting a conversation with some random girl on the street. Since I'm just starting out, I'd prefer places that have a more comfortable atmosphere for approaching girls. For example, it's much easier to talk to someone at a dance class since you're both a part of the class so there's something in common.

Thanks for the help!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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mall, grocery store, walking, park, any store, any public place outside your home.
 
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I'd also add the gym. Personally, I don't hit on girls there b/c my workout is pretty intense and I'm "in the zone" when it comes to the lifting. However, the gym usually has some attractive women there, so you could definitely try something there.
 
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Girls are everywhere if you ask me. Where is not the question. I usually hit up barnes and noble. Friday through Sunday are usually packed. You'll still see alot of girls on any given day though. I live in Fairfield btw. Not that far from SF. It's about time I make friends with an ansprising DJ.
 
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Bars. Try to scope out a place where lots of singles go. That way you know that many of the girls are there looking to be picked up.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I know girls are everywhere, but as a very shy person who just started to read and learn about this material, I'm a bit freaked out about talking to some random girl in a grocery store.

Obviously I need to get over that fear, but its a lot easier to start a conversation in an environment like a classroom.

also, I can't go to clubs/bars cause I'm not 21 yet.
 
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