What I have learned is never just say anthing to a chick while she is walking by. Like nice shoes or hey red is my favorite color. these statements just don't get their attention 99% of the time , Just stop them with a big smile and ask them a question about whatever or where's this or that . By doing this you will increase your confidence and conversation skills. Believe me it will be more fun too, just say "excuse me can I ask you a question"
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
pickups on the street
- Thread starter TheRock
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Spike_the_cowboy
Master Don Juan
Simple. Direct. True.
Great tip.
Great tip.
HappyHobo
Banned
I would say... only ask if you truly need to know something.
I wouldnt make something up just so i can talk to her.
Chasing girls is not what don juan does.
However, striking up converesations here and there is, but not randomly.
There must be some sort of connection first before you can strike up a conversation.
You both can either be doing the same activity, like being the same class, running, or at soem party. Whatever the case is, you need to be on the same level with them.
Dont walk up to girls randomly and ask them questions unless you truly dont know where you are. It is more than likely if you randonmly walked up to a girl and tried to pick her up it would not work unless there is a same level basis established first.
I wouldnt make something up just so i can talk to her.
Chasing girls is not what don juan does.
However, striking up converesations here and there is, but not randomly.
There must be some sort of connection first before you can strike up a conversation.
You both can either be doing the same activity, like being the same class, running, or at soem party. Whatever the case is, you need to be on the same level with them.
Dont walk up to girls randomly and ask them questions unless you truly dont know where you are. It is more than likely if you randonmly walked up to a girl and tried to pick her up it would not work unless there is a same level basis established first.
DJ Alejandro
Senior Don Juan
i did that before.
me: excuse me, can i ask you a question?
her: you already are.
me:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.