What I have learned is never just say anthing to a chick while she is walking by. Like nice shoes or hey red is my favorite color. these statements just don't get their attention 99% of the time , Just stop them with a big smile and ask them a question about whatever or where's this or that . By doing this you will increase your confidence and conversation skills. Believe me it will be more fun too, just say "excuse me can I ask you a question"
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
pickups on the street
- Thread starter TheRock
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Spike_the_cowboy
Master Don Juan
Simple. Direct. True.
Great tip.
Great tip.
HappyHobo
Banned
I would say... only ask if you truly need to know something.
I wouldnt make something up just so i can talk to her.
Chasing girls is not what don juan does.
However, striking up converesations here and there is, but not randomly.
There must be some sort of connection first before you can strike up a conversation.
You both can either be doing the same activity, like being the same class, running, or at soem party. Whatever the case is, you need to be on the same level with them.
Dont walk up to girls randomly and ask them questions unless you truly dont know where you are. It is more than likely if you randonmly walked up to a girl and tried to pick her up it would not work unless there is a same level basis established first.
I wouldnt make something up just so i can talk to her.
Chasing girls is not what don juan does.
However, striking up converesations here and there is, but not randomly.
There must be some sort of connection first before you can strike up a conversation.
You both can either be doing the same activity, like being the same class, running, or at soem party. Whatever the case is, you need to be on the same level with them.
Dont walk up to girls randomly and ask them questions unless you truly dont know where you are. It is more than likely if you randonmly walked up to a girl and tried to pick her up it would not work unless there is a same level basis established first.
DJ Alejandro
Senior Don Juan
i did that before.
me: excuse me, can i ask you a question?
her: you already are.
me:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.