"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Picking up girls is easy

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Seriously.... think of what it takes to pick-up a girl.

You have to walk up to her, talk for a couple seconds and then ask for her number. HOW IS THIS HARD AT ALL?? What is the difficult part? Walking or talking? Those are simple tasks that even a 2 year-old can complete. Most of you have atleast 20 years of walking and talking experience.. you should be pretty good at it by now.


I ask ever girl out on the street I see. There's only two possible outcomes. Either she says yes and gives me her number... or she says she's in a relationship and doesn't. If she doesn't give you her number.. she'll be extremely flattered that she got asked out. Women absolutely love being asked out. It makes em feel great. So, even if you don't get a the girls number... you still completely made her day by asking her out. :yes: happy hunting my friends.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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we all know the process is that easy, yet we all struggle. It's funny really!
 
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thedude4242

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getting some initial attraction and a phone number is so easy to me. it is the part after that, that is hard for me. all PUA's cover this and that is about it.
 
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thedude4242 said:
getting some initial attraction and a phone number is so easy to me. it is the part after that, that is hard for me. all PUA's cover this and that is about it.
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Me too wonders why one never gets to see videos of 1st date, 2nd date etc like one gets to see pickup videos.
 
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Szyzzlin said:
Seriously.... think of what it takes to pick-up a girl.

You have to walk up to her, talk for a couple seconds and then ask for her number. HOW IS THIS HARD AT ALL?? What is the difficult part? Walking or talking? Those are simple tasks that even a 2 year-old can complete. Most of you have atleast 20 years of walking and talking experience.. you should be pretty good at it by now.


I ask ever girl out on the street I see. There's only two possible outcomes. Either she says yes and gives me her number... or she says she's in a relationship and doesn't. If she doesn't give you her number.. she'll be extremely flattered that she got asked out. Women absolutely love being asked out. It makes em feel great. So, even if you don't get a the girls number... you still completely made her day by asking her out. :yes: happy hunting my friends.
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Yes, it's easy as hell to get a phone number. Getting an actual date, sex, relationship can be quite tough off of a 2-3 second cold approach.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It is psychology that interferes my friend.

But we must move past it! :)
 
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I suck at the pick-up, but when I get them out, my fvck ratio is probably 90%
I usually wait for who ever I'm hanging with to open with some chicks, and I swoop in...
I'm working on improving the pick-up, because I feel like I'm getting chicks that choose me, which i've had some hot ones... But much better to choose you own...
 
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talking to girls can be scary

lets say your at the mall and see a chick posted at the mall you dont know if she
1)is there with her boyfriend who could be in the bathroom at the moment or something
2)one of those chicks that doesnt like to get hit on
3)you might know what to say when your walking towards her but when you get there you might get that nervous silence thing going where you cant talk..etc..


stuff like that
 
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irocknike23 said:
talking to girls can be scary

lets say your at the mall and see a chick posted at the mall you dont know if she
1)is there with her boyfriend who could be in the bathroom at the moment or something
2)one of those chicks that doesnt like to get hit on
3)you might know what to say when your walking towards her but when you get there you might get that nervous silence thing going where you cant talk..etc..


stuff like that
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1) If you don't wanna get your ass kicked, just say you didn't realize she was with someone and walk away. Rarely will a guy do anything more than give you a bad look.

2) If she doesn't want to get hit on, she will say no when you try. No way for you to know until you try, so try.

3) Practice helps. Find openings that tend to get her to talk a bit more, then use your listening skills to keep it going.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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