"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

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picking up girl in salsa lessons

pyros

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Hi.

I go twice per week to salsa lessons. Here there are some cute girls that come as regular as me.
General scenario is:
I go there, we start the lesson, we switch partners, I dance with a girl I like...we chitchat...


What would be the best option to pick up one of these girls I like?

A) First time I see one I like, we dance, I ask her some questions during the class or at the end of it...
talk for a bit and get her number? all this during this first encounter.

or

B) Since I'll keep seing them for weeks, I try to build rapport, talk for a bit one time,
talk for a bit more another time...get to know her a bit, get her number and ask her out
some other time?


I do not want to look desperate trying to inmediately pick up a girl I like in my salsa class the first time I meet her, you know?
but maybe I'm wrong?


Thanks.
 

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Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

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atree

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First of all I'm a newbie however...

I did some salsa classes for a bit and I scored with one. What I did was suggest going out and practicing salsa at a club, you know 'we could really show the rest of the class up if we practiced a little more'. Try to find a club that isn't full of absolute stars though as you might find it's a bit too much. Also, try and chat on the way to the bus stop or something without anyone else around. However, as I'm a newbie, I don't know what to do if you want to score with all the girls in the class!
 

VladPatton

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I submit Option (B).

Good luck
 

Die Hard

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Yes, option B!

And make sure you learn how to dance 'Bachata'. DJ's at salsaparties often mix the music up with Bachata songs and this dance can become very intimate (as opposed to salsa).
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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