"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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picking up girl in salsa lessons

pyros

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Hi.

I go twice per week to salsa lessons. Here there are some cute girls that come as regular as me.
General scenario is:
I go there, we start the lesson, we switch partners, I dance with a girl I like...we chitchat...


What would be the best option to pick up one of these girls I like?

A) First time I see one I like, we dance, I ask her some questions during the class or at the end of it...
talk for a bit and get her number? all this during this first encounter.

or

B) Since I'll keep seing them for weeks, I try to build rapport, talk for a bit one time,
talk for a bit more another time...get to know her a bit, get her number and ask her out
some other time?


I do not want to look desperate trying to inmediately pick up a girl I like in my salsa class the first time I meet her, you know?
but maybe I'm wrong?


Thanks.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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atree

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First of all I'm a newbie however...

I did some salsa classes for a bit and I scored with one. What I did was suggest going out and practicing salsa at a club, you know 'we could really show the rest of the class up if we practiced a little more'. Try to find a club that isn't full of absolute stars though as you might find it's a bit too much. Also, try and chat on the way to the bus stop or something without anyone else around. However, as I'm a newbie, I don't know what to do if you want to score with all the girls in the class!
 

VladPatton

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I submit Option (B).

Good luck
 

Die Hard

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Yes, option B!

And make sure you learn how to dance 'Bachata'. DJ's at salsaparties often mix the music up with Bachata songs and this dance can become very intimate (as opposed to salsa).
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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