"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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picking up girl in salsa lessons

pyros

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Hi.

I go twice per week to salsa lessons. Here there are some cute girls that come as regular as me.
General scenario is:
I go there, we start the lesson, we switch partners, I dance with a girl I like...we chitchat...


What would be the best option to pick up one of these girls I like?

A) First time I see one I like, we dance, I ask her some questions during the class or at the end of it...
talk for a bit and get her number? all this during this first encounter.

or

B) Since I'll keep seing them for weeks, I try to build rapport, talk for a bit one time,
talk for a bit more another time...get to know her a bit, get her number and ask her out
some other time?


I do not want to look desperate trying to inmediately pick up a girl I like in my salsa class the first time I meet her, you know?
but maybe I'm wrong?


Thanks.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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atree

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First of all I'm a newbie however...

I did some salsa classes for a bit and I scored with one. What I did was suggest going out and practicing salsa at a club, you know 'we could really show the rest of the class up if we practiced a little more'. Try to find a club that isn't full of absolute stars though as you might find it's a bit too much. Also, try and chat on the way to the bus stop or something without anyone else around. However, as I'm a newbie, I don't know what to do if you want to score with all the girls in the class!
 

VladPatton

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I submit Option (B).

Good luck
 

Die Hard

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Yes, option B!

And make sure you learn how to dance 'Bachata'. DJ's at salsaparties often mix the music up with Bachata songs and this dance can become very intimate (as opposed to salsa).
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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