Enjoy every minute of it but try to keep those feelings in check. Anytime you feel like pulling a Tom Cruise and letting all your feelings pour out, just take a step back, take a deep breath and put things into perspective. Keep us posted and lots of luck.crashdietguy said:I'm 19 now, since 2 days.I will not meet her at the airport, and since I've followed all (sound) advice this site has offered since I began dating her (and it's gone really well so far), I will not give her a rose. I will give her my awesome gift-certificate though, I'm sure she'll appreciate it.
Rescue Mission, what you say is probably true, but damn it's hard to wrap my head around it at this point. She is fvcking awesome, and I know she's really into me. I know I'm young and naive (and a raging sea of love hormones), but is it really doomed to fail? I know most HS relationships fail at some point, but fvck it, if I play by the DJ rules this LTR should have a chance. Props for your insight man, even if it's tough love.
Thanks for the input guys.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Pick girlfriend up at the airport
- Thread starter crashdietguy
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Hullothere
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most likely yes. but dont worry about it. god himself could come down and tell you that you will eventually break up and you probably won't believe it. your emotions are always really strong for a first love and going crazy since you have never had all these hormones going off in your body. i liken it to trying a drug for the first time..crashdietguy said:I'm 19 now, since 2 days.
Rescue Mission, what you say is probably true, but damn it's hard to wrap my head around it at this point. She is fvcking awesome, and I know she's really into me. I know I'm young and naive (and a raging sea of love hormones), but is it really doomed to fail? I know most HS relationships fail at some point, but fvck it, if I play by the DJ rules this LTR should have a chance. Props for your insight man, even if it's tough love.
Thanks for the input guys.
Why are you so intent on giving her a gift? Are you not good enough for her you need to be giving her material things? After being away for a week or whatever, if she's into you, she'll be happy to see YOU, not what you can buy her. If she's not that into you, you're only prolonging your suffering by buying her affection with these gifts.crashdietguy said:I'm 19 now, since 2 days.
Rescue Mission, what you say is probably true, but damn it's hard to wrap my head around it at this point. She is fvcking awesome, and I know she's really into me. I know I'm young and naive (and a raging sea of love hormones), but is it really doomed to fail? I know most HS relationships fail at some point, but fvck it, if I play by the DJ rules this LTR should have a chance. Props for your insight man, even if it's tough love.
Thanks for the input guys.
Kailex
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You're gonna reward her for coming back from a trip that she's supposed to come back from anyway???
As soon as you start doing that, she's going to start expect gifts for the most ridiculous reasons ever.
"Hey sweetheart, I used the potty all by myself and even flushed... where's my gift certificate?"
As soon as you start doing that, she's going to start expect gifts for the most ridiculous reasons ever.
"Hey sweetheart, I used the potty all by myself and even flushed... where's my gift certificate?"
crashdietguy
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Haha, okey guys, you've helped me realize that I'm slipping into AFC-mode here. When we see each other in the evening of her return, she'll give me my birthday presents. After that, I'm gonna reward her by saying "Lay on the bed, stomach down. I'm gonna give you a looong, good massage..."
See, when she mentioned she'd bought me birthday gifts, I said I had a nice little thing for her because she's awesome to buy me gifts. But hey, a massage counts as a nice little thing too, I guess. Let's just hope she doesn't expect a golden Aston Martin Vanquish.
You guys are golden. I ain't slipping this easy again.
When we see each other in the evening of her return, she'll give me my birthday presents. After that, I'm gonna reward her by saying "Lay on the bed, stomach down. I'm gonna give you a looong, good massage..." See, when she mentioned she'd bought me birthday gifts, I said I had a nice little thing for her because she's awesome to buy me gifts. But hey, a massage counts as a nice little thing too, I guess. Let's just hope she doesn't expect a golden Aston Martin Vanquish.
You guys are golden. I ain't slipping this easy again.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
And then toss her salad, girls love that.crashdietguy said:Haha, okey guys, you've helped me realize that I'm slipping into AFC-mode here.