Enjoy every minute of it but try to keep those feelings in check. Anytime you feel like pulling a Tom Cruise and letting all your feelings pour out, just take a step back, take a deep breath and put things into perspective. Keep us posted and lots of luck.crashdietguy said:I'm 19 now, since 2 days.I will not meet her at the airport, and since I've followed all (sound) advice this site has offered since I began dating her (and it's gone really well so far), I will not give her a rose. I will give her my awesome gift-certificate though, I'm sure she'll appreciate it.
Rescue Mission, what you say is probably true, but damn it's hard to wrap my head around it at this point. She is fvcking awesome, and I know she's really into me. I know I'm young and naive (and a raging sea of love hormones), but is it really doomed to fail? I know most HS relationships fail at some point, but fvck it, if I play by the DJ rules this LTR should have a chance. Props for your insight man, even if it's tough love.
Thanks for the input guys.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Pick girlfriend up at the airport
- Thread starter crashdietguy
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Hullothere
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most likely yes. but dont worry about it. god himself could come down and tell you that you will eventually break up and you probably won't believe it. your emotions are always really strong for a first love and going crazy since you have never had all these hormones going off in your body. i liken it to trying a drug for the first time..crashdietguy said:I'm 19 now, since 2 days.
Rescue Mission, what you say is probably true, but damn it's hard to wrap my head around it at this point. She is fvcking awesome, and I know she's really into me. I know I'm young and naive (and a raging sea of love hormones), but is it really doomed to fail? I know most HS relationships fail at some point, but fvck it, if I play by the DJ rules this LTR should have a chance. Props for your insight man, even if it's tough love.
Thanks for the input guys.
Why are you so intent on giving her a gift? Are you not good enough for her you need to be giving her material things? After being away for a week or whatever, if she's into you, she'll be happy to see YOU, not what you can buy her. If she's not that into you, you're only prolonging your suffering by buying her affection with these gifts.crashdietguy said:I'm 19 now, since 2 days.
Rescue Mission, what you say is probably true, but damn it's hard to wrap my head around it at this point. She is fvcking awesome, and I know she's really into me. I know I'm young and naive (and a raging sea of love hormones), but is it really doomed to fail? I know most HS relationships fail at some point, but fvck it, if I play by the DJ rules this LTR should have a chance. Props for your insight man, even if it's tough love.
Thanks for the input guys.
Kailex
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You're gonna reward her for coming back from a trip that she's supposed to come back from anyway???
As soon as you start doing that, she's going to start expect gifts for the most ridiculous reasons ever.
"Hey sweetheart, I used the potty all by myself and even flushed... where's my gift certificate?"
As soon as you start doing that, she's going to start expect gifts for the most ridiculous reasons ever.
"Hey sweetheart, I used the potty all by myself and even flushed... where's my gift certificate?"
crashdietguy
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Haha, okey guys, you've helped me realize that I'm slipping into AFC-mode here. When we see each other in the evening of her return, she'll give me my birthday presents. After that, I'm gonna reward her by saying "Lay on the bed, stomach down. I'm gonna give you a looong, good massage..."
See, when she mentioned she'd bought me birthday gifts, I said I had a nice little thing for her because she's awesome to buy me gifts. But hey, a massage counts as a nice little thing too, I guess. Let's just hope she doesn't expect a golden Aston Martin Vanquish.
You guys are golden. I ain't slipping this easy again.
When we see each other in the evening of her return, she'll give me my birthday presents. After that, I'm gonna reward her by saying "Lay on the bed, stomach down. I'm gonna give you a looong, good massage..." See, when she mentioned she'd bought me birthday gifts, I said I had a nice little thing for her because she's awesome to buy me gifts. But hey, a massage counts as a nice little thing too, I guess. Let's just hope she doesn't expect a golden Aston Martin Vanquish.
You guys are golden. I ain't slipping this easy again.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
And then toss her salad, girls love that.crashdietguy said:Haha, okey guys, you've helped me realize that I'm slipping into AFC-mode here.