Enjoy every minute of it but try to keep those feelings in check. Anytime you feel like pulling a Tom Cruise and letting all your feelings pour out, just take a step back, take a deep breath and put things into perspective. Keep us posted and lots of luck.crashdietguy said:I'm 19 now, since 2 days.I will not meet her at the airport, and since I've followed all (sound) advice this site has offered since I began dating her (and it's gone really well so far), I will not give her a rose. I will give her my awesome gift-certificate though, I'm sure she'll appreciate it.
Rescue Mission, what you say is probably true, but damn it's hard to wrap my head around it at this point. She is fvcking awesome, and I know she's really into me. I know I'm young and naive (and a raging sea of love hormones), but is it really doomed to fail? I know most HS relationships fail at some point, but fvck it, if I play by the DJ rules this LTR should have a chance. Props for your insight man, even if it's tough love.
Thanks for the input guys.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Hullothere
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most likely yes. but dont worry about it. god himself could come down and tell you that you will eventually break up and you probably won't believe it. your emotions are always really strong for a first love and going crazy since you have never had all these hormones going off in your body. i liken it to trying a drug for the first time..crashdietguy said:I'm 19 now, since 2 days.
Rescue Mission, what you say is probably true, but damn it's hard to wrap my head around it at this point. She is fvcking awesome, and I know she's really into me. I know I'm young and naive (and a raging sea of love hormones), but is it really doomed to fail? I know most HS relationships fail at some point, but fvck it, if I play by the DJ rules this LTR should have a chance. Props for your insight man, even if it's tough love.
Thanks for the input guys.
Why are you so intent on giving her a gift? Are you not good enough for her you need to be giving her material things? After being away for a week or whatever, if she's into you, she'll be happy to see YOU, not what you can buy her. If she's not that into you, you're only prolonging your suffering by buying her affection with these gifts.crashdietguy said:I'm 19 now, since 2 days.
Rescue Mission, what you say is probably true, but damn it's hard to wrap my head around it at this point. She is fvcking awesome, and I know she's really into me. I know I'm young and naive (and a raging sea of love hormones), but is it really doomed to fail? I know most HS relationships fail at some point, but fvck it, if I play by the DJ rules this LTR should have a chance. Props for your insight man, even if it's tough love.
Thanks for the input guys.
Kailex
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You're gonna reward her for coming back from a trip that she's supposed to come back from anyway???
As soon as you start doing that, she's going to start expect gifts for the most ridiculous reasons ever.
"Hey sweetheart, I used the potty all by myself and even flushed... where's my gift certificate?"
As soon as you start doing that, she's going to start expect gifts for the most ridiculous reasons ever.
"Hey sweetheart, I used the potty all by myself and even flushed... where's my gift certificate?"
crashdietguy
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Haha, okey guys, you've helped me realize that I'm slipping into AFC-mode here. When we see each other in the evening of her return, she'll give me my birthday presents. After that, I'm gonna reward her by saying "Lay on the bed, stomach down. I'm gonna give you a looong, good massage..."
See, when she mentioned she'd bought me birthday gifts, I said I had a nice little thing for her because she's awesome to buy me gifts. But hey, a massage counts as a nice little thing too, I guess. Let's just hope she doesn't expect a golden Aston Martin Vanquish.
You guys are golden. I ain't slipping this easy again.
When we see each other in the evening of her return, she'll give me my birthday presents. After that, I'm gonna reward her by saying "Lay on the bed, stomach down. I'm gonna give you a looong, good massage..." See, when she mentioned she'd bought me birthday gifts, I said I had a nice little thing for her because she's awesome to buy me gifts. But hey, a massage counts as a nice little thing too, I guess. Let's just hope she doesn't expect a golden Aston Martin Vanquish.
You guys are golden. I ain't slipping this easy again.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
And then toss her salad, girls love that.crashdietguy said:Haha, okey guys, you've helped me realize that I'm slipping into AFC-mode here.