"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Physical vs Mental Strength

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Ok how do you people maintain mental strength throughout the day? My physical strength isnt a problem, i can do gym and workout for hours, and its so satisfsctory after that, i cannot even put that in words.

But when i sit on a chair for work, on a laptop or something, its like i get drained in 30min.

I wish i could just workout and travel all day long, but unfortunately that doesnt pay the bills.

So how do you people maintain mental strength and focus throughout the day. Any suggestions?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The mental part means you have too much going on, aren’t sleeping well, or are stressed about the work. I work in a cognitive desk job so I go through it. In many ways the mental strain is extreme. Have to have a solid sleep and self-care schedule.
 

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The mental part means you have too much going on, aren’t sleeping well, or are stressed about the work. I work in a cognitive desk job so I go through it. In many ways the mental strain is extreme. Have to have a solid sleep and self-care schedule.
Mainly its stress, yes. But i do generally sleep alot. What other self care routines do you recommend?
 

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I find taking a floor nap to be a good way to energize your energy.

Taking a nap on the bed will only drain you...but sleeping on the floor like our ancestors have done for thousands of years brings back energy.

It's even a 'yoga' pose...try it out. I think this and the resting squat are fundamental resting positions we should do every day.
 

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Ok how do you people maintain mental strength throughout the day? My physical strength isnt a problem, i can do gym and workout for hours, and its so satisfsctory after that, i cannot even put that in words.

But when i sit on a chair for work, on a laptop or something, its like i get drained in 30min.

I wish i could just workout and travel all day long, but unfortunately that doesnt pay the bills.

So how do you people maintain mental strength and focus throughout the day. Any suggestions?
As a software engineer I tend to get lost in my work and often times don't even know what time it is until I stop working...sometimes well after when I should be done for the day.

Sounds like your work isn't very engaging to you.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Yes I agree, you don’t enjoy your job.

The only time I get like this is when I’m back from a weekend or holiday. It takes a while to get in the mood. I’m (roughly) in a sales focussed role so I find it exciting.

It depends also on how old you are. I’m almost 40 and I really love work now, I look forward to it, at 25 every minute felt like torture. Even though I had a good job then too.
You said you have an asian wife right? Do you live in Asia by the way? Just wondering.
 

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Ok how do you people maintain mental strength throughout the day? My physical strength isnt a problem, i can do gym and workout for hours, and its so satisfsctory after that, i cannot even put that in words.

But when i sit on a chair for work, on a laptop or something, its like i get drained in 30min.

I wish i could just workout and travel all day long, but unfortunately that doesnt pay the bills.

So how do you people maintain mental strength and focus throughout the day. Any suggestions?
Remove all distractions that evaporate your focus.
From cellphone notification signals, unnecessary social media bs, TV, games, unimportant entertainment to draining negative persons in your life that doesn't deserve your presence.

And like other guys say here in the thread, above get enough sleep, stay healthy etc. etc.

Passion doesnt always pays the bills.
That is somewhat correct (Working with a passion can theoretically make you even more money), but having a laser guided mind of focus will.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The best way to maintain mental strength and focus throughout the day may vary depending on your individual needs. However, some suggestions that may help include: exercising regularly, eating a balanced diet rich in protein and healthy fats, getting enough sleep each night, avoiding caffeine or other stimulants during the morning hours (when you are most focused), practicing meditation or mindfulness Meditation exercises can help calm the mind and reduce stress levels overall.
 
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