"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Physical vs Mental Strength

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Ok how do you people maintain mental strength throughout the day? My physical strength isnt a problem, i can do gym and workout for hours, and its so satisfsctory after that, i cannot even put that in words.

But when i sit on a chair for work, on a laptop or something, its like i get drained in 30min.

I wish i could just workout and travel all day long, but unfortunately that doesnt pay the bills.

So how do you people maintain mental strength and focus throughout the day. Any suggestions?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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EyeBRollin

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The mental part means you have too much going on, aren’t sleeping well, or are stressed about the work. I work in a cognitive desk job so I go through it. In many ways the mental strain is extreme. Have to have a solid sleep and self-care schedule.
 

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The mental part means you have too much going on, aren’t sleeping well, or are stressed about the work. I work in a cognitive desk job so I go through it. In many ways the mental strain is extreme. Have to have a solid sleep and self-care schedule.
Mainly its stress, yes. But i do generally sleep alot. What other self care routines do you recommend?
 

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I find taking a floor nap to be a good way to energize your energy.

Taking a nap on the bed will only drain you...but sleeping on the floor like our ancestors have done for thousands of years brings back energy.

It's even a 'yoga' pose...try it out. I think this and the resting squat are fundamental resting positions we should do every day.
 

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Ok how do you people maintain mental strength throughout the day? My physical strength isnt a problem, i can do gym and workout for hours, and its so satisfsctory after that, i cannot even put that in words.

But when i sit on a chair for work, on a laptop or something, its like i get drained in 30min.

I wish i could just workout and travel all day long, but unfortunately that doesnt pay the bills.

So how do you people maintain mental strength and focus throughout the day. Any suggestions?
As a software engineer I tend to get lost in my work and often times don't even know what time it is until I stop working...sometimes well after when I should be done for the day.

Sounds like your work isn't very engaging to you.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Yes I agree, you don’t enjoy your job.

The only time I get like this is when I’m back from a weekend or holiday. It takes a while to get in the mood. I’m (roughly) in a sales focussed role so I find it exciting.

It depends also on how old you are. I’m almost 40 and I really love work now, I look forward to it, at 25 every minute felt like torture. Even though I had a good job then too.
You said you have an asian wife right? Do you live in Asia by the way? Just wondering.
 

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Ok how do you people maintain mental strength throughout the day? My physical strength isnt a problem, i can do gym and workout for hours, and its so satisfsctory after that, i cannot even put that in words.

But when i sit on a chair for work, on a laptop or something, its like i get drained in 30min.

I wish i could just workout and travel all day long, but unfortunately that doesnt pay the bills.

So how do you people maintain mental strength and focus throughout the day. Any suggestions?
Remove all distractions that evaporate your focus.
From cellphone notification signals, unnecessary social media bs, TV, games, unimportant entertainment to draining negative persons in your life that doesn't deserve your presence.

And like other guys say here in the thread, above get enough sleep, stay healthy etc. etc.

Passion doesnt always pays the bills.
That is somewhat correct (Working with a passion can theoretically make you even more money), but having a laser guided mind of focus will.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The best way to maintain mental strength and focus throughout the day may vary depending on your individual needs. However, some suggestions that may help include: exercising regularly, eating a balanced diet rich in protein and healthy fats, getting enough sleep each night, avoiding caffeine or other stimulants during the morning hours (when you are most focused), practicing meditation or mindfulness Meditation exercises can help calm the mind and reduce stress levels overall.
 
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